It's easy to overlook the impact that our time with others has. And yours with him, has been positive. My condolences.

I understand your feelings, Mark, but you had no way of knowing he was going to pass when he did. You were nice to him and I'm sure he appreciated it.

I've lost too many friends for a guy my age. I try to focus on how lucky I was to know them, all the good times we had and everything I learned from them. But yeah, it still sucks.

That's a very good message, and you were very kind to the old gentleman. I am sure he appreciated it more than you know.

I have lunch with a few fellow shooters and good friends a couple times a week, which we have been doing for more than 10 years. We have lost a couple of our number in the last two years, which had drawn the rest of us closer. We gather not so much for the shooting any more, but for the fellowship. I urge everyone to take the time if you can to visit with friends, family, and acquaintances, someday they may not be there.

Well done Mark. Like the others have written do not fell badly about what were not there to do; feel good about all the time you spent being there for your friend.

Sorry Mark, may he RIP. Don't beat yourself up. Completely understandable how you feel. He obviously looked forward to your time together. That should be bring you some comfort. As others have said. Your compassion for him is admirable and shows your character. You are indeed and a good man. Bless you.

You did the absolute right thing with this gentleman. We have a few of these older friends that we try to visit as often as possible. Two of which lost their spouse this year. We call them more often now but both live a state or two away. Long distance calls are free.

I feel bad over a friend I used to work with at the bank. I retired 6 years ago and stopped in a few weeks ago to have lunch with one of the guys. As I was leaving I thought about stopping into my friends office to visit but passed on the opportunity for some reason. He took his life two days ago. I believe he was 44 and had a wife and two kids. I would have never, never guessed he suffered from something so severe that he felt the need to kill himself.

Take time for others.
Mike

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Originally posted by YooperSigs:
Sad situation. But you did right by him.

Agree! He didn't die alone, Mark. He had you as his friend.

I was driving past his house and saw a car in the driveway so I stopped in. I met his daughter and son. I told the daughter that I spoke to him just last Thursday and she talked to him for the last time three days before I was there. She thanked me for spending time with him. I may have been the last person he talked to and he may have died days before he was found.

Mark your kindness and friendship to him is a reflection of who you are as a person. You both added joy to each others lives. Well done! This story while sad is enriching to others who hopefully will live by your example. My condonlences.

You did what we’re all supposed to do; give of ourselves. You gave what he needed when he needed it.