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March 06, 2018, 05:44 AM
12131
Virginia dad forces 'bully' son, 10, to run to school in rain after being banned from bus
http://www.foxnews.com/us/2018...banned-from-bus.html

Virginia dad forces 'bully' son, 10, to run to school in rain after being banned from bus


A Virginia father posted a Facebook video that he says shows his 10-year-old son running to school in the rain as a form of punishment for bullying in school and being banned from the school bus.

Bryan Thornhill said his technique is working. He said his son was “out of his mind” last week and -- since the punnishment -- has not gotten into trouble.

“This right here is called parenting,” he said, according to a Daily Mail report.

Thornhill said it is important for kids to be held accountable for their actions. He said his son ran a mile to school for one week and joked that he kept a pretty good pace, running six-minute miles.

The Epoch Times reported that the video was posted on March 1 and has since been viewed over 1.6 million times.

“Teach your kids,” Thornhill, who filmed the runs from inside his truck, said. “Don’t be a friend, be a parent. That’s what children need these days.”

The vast majority of comments from viewers have been positive.

One post claimed to be from an educator who worked in schools for a decade. She said she wished there were more parents like Thornhill. Another wrote, “My hat’s off to you, Brother!! Good parenting!”

Some commenters were critical of the technique, especially over the fact the boy was running in the rain.

“So bully your kid to teach him not to bully lol,” one post read. “Have you ever looked the kid in the face and had a long conversation with him about why he is acting the way he is acting. Find out where he learned to be a bully to begin with.”


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March 06, 2018, 06:16 AM
egregore
I hoofed it to school in the rain lots of times. (Not as punishment.) He'll live.

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March 06, 2018, 06:22 AM
sourdough44
Contrast this technique with all the complaining that parents don’t do enough when their little Jonny does something that cries for attention?

Don't know what the kid did, but as a parent I’ve seen bullying in action. It doesn’t bother me a bit that the Dad came down hard on him. It sure beats just saying, ‘don’t do that again’.

I won’t be writing negative comments about his actions, we need more.
March 06, 2018, 06:38 AM
tgtshuter
Sounds like the father's parenting technique worked. Good on holding his kid accountable for his actions. That's what you're supposed to do.

I do question the father's need to post this on facebook, like he's bragging on himself?

Everyone's different, but I wouldn't post on social media video of me disciplining my child. That needs to remain private between the parent and child, IMO.
March 06, 2018, 07:27 AM
JimTheo
I wouldn't post it, but I guess someone had to show what should be done.



I should be tall and rich too; That ain't gonna happen either
March 06, 2018, 07:32 AM
TigerDore
quote:
Originally posted by 12131:
“So bully your kid to teach him not to bully lol,” one post read. “Have you ever looked the kid in the face and had a long conversation with him about why he is acting the way he is acting. Find out where he learned to be a bully to begin with.”

Says the parenting expert who either has no kids, or kids that are spoiled behavioral nightmares.



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March 06, 2018, 07:38 AM
Karpteach
As an educator in the most Liberal state in the union, I commend this Dad. People, we have to take control of our children. I have seen parents get hit from their children and say NOTHING! Folks you really don’t know how bad our society is getting!
March 06, 2018, 07:44 AM
911Boss
quote:
Originally posted by TigerDore:
quote:
Originally posted by 12131:
“So bully your kid to teach him not to bully lol,” one post read. “Have you ever looked the kid in the face and had a long conversation with him about why he is acting the way he is acting. Find out where he learned to be a bully to begin with.”

Says the parenting expert who either has no kids, or kids that are spoiled behavioral nightmares.

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I don’t see punishment or consequences (especially natural ones) for poor behavior as “bullying”.

Kid acted up and got suspended from riding school bus. Having to hoof it to school therefore is clearly a natural consequence of that action.

For safety sake, dad or mom now have to escort the kid, creating a hardship and expense of time as a result of the kids action. Again, natural consequence for the kid inconveniencing the parent is to make that time as short as possible, hence a nice jog to school instead of a leisurely walk.

Additional side benefits include good exercise, and a burning of energy which may be part of little Johnnie’s issue in the first place leading to over exuberant and inappropriate bus conduct.


Not sure if I would post it to YouTube, but there is value I think to let others know “parents” still exist and it can be done. Too many people these days want to be their kid’s “friend” and abdictate their responsibility. Of course there is also the humility of it serving as a deterrent for future acts as well.


The idea that you can have long, meaningful, conversations with kids to resolve things is just silly. Another outgrowth of the notion that children are just miniature adults and can be reasoned with like adults. Sorry, their brains have not developed to that point. They are still learning to understand abstract concepts and such. What they understand is rules, expectations, and punishment/consequences for failing to meet the standard.

Too many breeders today don’t get the concept of how to raise a child and figure their job is done once the kid can feed himself and work electronic devices.



Good on that Dad...






What part of "...Shall not be infringed" don't you understand???


March 06, 2018, 08:18 AM
StayFrosty
quote:
Originally posted by TigerDore:
quote:
Originally posted by 12131:
“So bully your kid to teach him not to bully lol,” one post read. “Have you ever looked the kid in the face and had a long conversation with him about why he is acting the way he is acting. Find out where he learned to be a bully to begin with.”

Says the parenting expert who either has no kids, or kids that are spoiled behavioral nightmares.



I don't have kids and I think that commenter doesn't understand the difference between bullying and parenting.
March 06, 2018, 08:56 AM
sigspecops
It's no one's business what his child's issues are or what his solutions are. He's just another Facebook attention whore.


No one's life, liberty or property is safe while the legislature is in session.- Mark Twain
March 06, 2018, 09:09 AM
nhtagmember
growing up in a small town of 9000, we didn't have school buses

everyone walked to school in all weather - rain, snow, sunshine

it was considered 'normal'



[B] Against ALL enemies, foreign and DOMESTIC


March 06, 2018, 09:29 AM
rusbro
Posting your child's punishment on facebook and bragging about your parenting skills kinda proves you're lacking as a parent.
March 06, 2018, 09:45 AM
nhtagmember
well, at least he is doing something



[B] Against ALL enemies, foreign and DOMESTIC


March 06, 2018, 09:55 AM
SpinZone
The single most important thing a parent can do for their children is to teach them the relationship between actions and consequences.

A friend still has an iPhone after it met Mr Hammer on display in his house. A reminder to his oldest child as well a a teachimg moment for his younger 2 children. (And they are turning out to be really good kids)



“We truly live in a wondrous age of stupid.” - 83v45magna

"I think it's important that people understand free speech doesn't mean free from consequences societally or politically or culturally."
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March 06, 2018, 09:55 AM
V-Tail
quote:
Originally posted by nhtagmember:
growing up in a small town of 9000, we didn't have school buses

everyone walked to school in all weather - rain, snow, sunshine
Up hill, both ways.



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March 06, 2018, 10:00 AM
jhe888
Let the punishment the school imposed fall on the bad apple. Maybe it will straighten him out.

A ten-year-old can walk a mile. It won't hurt him any.




The fish is mute, expressionless. The fish doesn't think because the fish knows everything.
March 06, 2018, 10:04 AM
Sigmund
Before you abuse, criticize and accuse
Walk a mile in his shoes
March 06, 2018, 10:05 AM
nhtagmember
quote:
Originally posted by V-Tail:
quote:
Originally posted by nhtagmember:
growing up in a small town of 9000, we didn't have school buses

everyone walked to school in all weather - rain, snow, sunshine
Up hill, both ways.


No, but if your family didn't have a car and there were no buses, what would you do? Back in 1968 my dad made less than $8000 a year. A car was a luxury we couldn't afford.



[B] Against ALL enemies, foreign and DOMESTIC


March 06, 2018, 10:20 AM
F12517
I commend this parent's way of handling it, I don't support him putting it on bookface. The act of humiliating your kid on the world wide web while grandstanding about what "parenting" looks like is where he too became a bully. My family's business is just that, ours, no one else's.
March 06, 2018, 10:22 AM
slosig
As pointed out in one of the comments, the article is almost certainly an incomplete if not inaccurate picture of what went on. While I’m not a fan of the whole video thing (What ever happened to “Praise in public, punish in private.”?), the dad gets major points for coming up with a punishment that looks a lot like natural consequences. More for getting the kid some exercise as well.