I invite them to attend the next meeting of my support group and 12-step program for compulsive talkers, known as ONandONandON. If they show any interest I invite them to become the next poster child.

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Locate another excessive talker and put them in the room together. They will kill each other. Problem solved.

I had two guys on my team back when I was managing a group of field reps who could not shut up or stay on subject. Just could not listen at all.
They didn't like each other much. Each thought the other was a know it all.

I'm always busy and I tell people "I'd love to talk more, but I'm on a time crunch and I can't talk and focus on what I have to do at the same time, so let's continue this talk later."

It's usually the actual truth.

If it's someone that I'm on the phone with, I mute my microphone and go about with what I'm doing.

I do have a friend who does like to talk a lot and I let him go on and on, but he eventually says "Well, I've run out of things to talk about, so why don't we talk later."

In a social setting, I sometimes just tell the excessive talker that it's been good talking, but I want to catch up with Bob or Barb over there and we'll talk again later. They always find someone else to keep talking with.

I've never felt the need to tell someone they talk too much. But I am a good listener and I've had people ask me if I think they talk too much. I will be honest and say yes or no.

Tony.

If all else fails these guys may be able to help,

https://youtu.be/PQgZ3oVawCE

Its worth a laugh to break from the stress.

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Originally posted by Jupiter:
Locate another excessive talker and put them in the room together. They will kill each other. Problem solved.

Just could not listen at all.

People like this are almost incapable of listening.

I've met quite a few people over the years who like to talk. We all have.
I have only met a handful of people who seem to take it to the next level.

Got a neighbor who lives around the block from me. I used to go past his house when doing my daily dog walk but haven't in a long time because of this.

The last time I encountered him, he started in talking nonstop to where I couldn't have said anything without talking over him. He went on for 40 minutes, segueing from one subject to another without stopping talking.

I told Mrs. Flash we'd never go past his house again.

I have told them to "Just give me the synopsis not the novel". Sometime they will leave other time I have to resort to less subtle tactics.

I like to excuse myself to use the restroom and after I walk out its easy to make the break and have something else important to do thereafter. That is for someone I don't want to offend. If its a stranger, IDGAF and I'll just cut them off and say sorry I have to go.

We have that guy at work, over 20 years dealing with that idiotic blabber mouth.

Pretty sad when you have to go the long way around him rather than past him.
If you turn and walk away he follows, all the way to the urinal.
When getting to work if I didn't hear him braying away from out in the parking lot I would wait till someone else was coming in and let them go first so they got face full first.
I tired of that and after a couple times of "get the fuck away from me" he won't even look at me now.

Years ago if he followed, I stopped by someone else for a second and he latched on to them and I made my escape.
That doesn't work anymore and now when someone sees him following and you are headed their way they run.

Now I'm just a complete asshole about it and refuse to put up with it.
It's bad enough you can hear him bellowing the same idiotic story over and over all day from across the shop.
Having chat time near my work area will get a shut the fuck up pretty quick.

My Mom is another one, but I like her so I just listen, because I can't get a word in if I wanted too.
I could be in a burning building and tell her I gotta go and she would say okay.. and keep going.
There's been a couple of times that I've hit a button on the phone and after a bit she asks what's that beeping and I tell her my battery is about to die and I can hear more about Aunt Esters erratic bowels tomorrow.

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Aunt Esters erratic bowels tomorrow.

Keep us updated please!

In the south, we say, "Well, let me let you go." (Exit stage right)

Try saying "Well I won't keep you any longer, have a good day"

Then GTFO
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In the south, we say, "Well, let me let you go." (Exit stage right)

I recall a blunt senior engineer telling a junior engineer "talk faster or use fewer words."

I think it is okay to share your concerns with the associate.

"Hey Joe, I've been trying to figure out something. How do we continue being good friends, but reduce the time we spend chatting?"

"You mean"

"Yes, Joe...as much as I enjoy your long stories, most of the time I just can't listen to the entire situation. It's really hard to have a good friend who you don't want to hurt, but have to share something like this."

"So you're saying"

"Yes, Joe, we need to find a way for you to fill me in briefly, just the highlights, and keep the conversations short. Let's begin focusing on the essentials now."

"I never thought about..."

"I know, Joe. All these months I've been sitting here trying my best to be polite and share a bit in your life. But, all those months I've been dying inside thinking of all the tasks I have to do. I've been staying late at work some days, because our conversations, to be candid, are often one-sided and far too long."

"I never realized"

"I know Joe, we all share life differently. I'm more of a essential info guy. I'm running fast and hard, and trying to keep a lot of balls in the air. I know you're busy too, and the work you're doing is valuable to our company. Let's try to just keep our day to day conversations to the absolute essentials, and that way we can stay connected but productive."

You can set boundaries. And, you can enforce them.

"I have to return some videotapes"

'Sorry, I'd like to talk but I have an infection..'

I had a meeting recently with one guy who LOVED to talk and another guy who was highly detail oriented and LOVED to ask tons of questions. Great guys the both of them but I was afraid we were going to cause a cascade reaction and tear a hole in the universe.

Could’ve gone on for days but luckily I had to take a kid to a Dr appointment.

I’ve got one that works for me. I’ve resorted to saying, “Wrap it up, we’ve got work to do.”

The Twilight Zone addressed this very problem. A multi millionare bet the talkative guy that he could not keep totally quiet for a year. If successful he would get a million bucks from the rich guy.
365 days later the two meet. The rich guy says I cannot believe you did not say a word for a year. You really earned your million bucks. He went on to say he is now bankrupt as his business failed. The talkative guy starts making mouth noises and opens his mouth wide to reveal that he has cut out his tongue. Fade to black.

Interesting read ...

https://www.psychologytoday.co...do-you-talk-too-much