Some prayers needed this way...(UPDATE in ORIGINAL POST)
Got a call yesterday from my 93 year old dad informing me that my mom, 83, suffered a massive stroke while sleeping. From his tone, I knew things were not good. She had been fine Friday night, up watching the NCAA tournament.
Packed up the family and got to my hometown as quickly as we could and met dad back at the hospital. Mom was a little alert and seemed to recognize me, my wife and our kids. We’d get a little smile and faint squeeze from her hand. That warmed my heart.
Doctor came in and explained that she had multiple brain bleeds and, at her age and the location, there was nothing they could do. Any attempt to slow or stop the bleeding would cause more damage. So, we had to make the choice to put her in hospice and make her as comfortable as an be. Without the ability to swallow and because both mom and dad have DNR orders, she will not be fed nor given any IVs. So now we wait.
She appears to be comfortable, but without the ability to speak, who really knows. I still see her in her eyes and I know she’s in there. But my bucket is running very low. My biggest concern is my dad...he’s scared...not of losing mom, but of being alone and not knowing what to do.
I’ve witnessed the caring and concern from this forum more than I can count and I guess I’m needing some of that...for me, my family, my dad and for my mom’s peacefulness.
Thanks everyone...
UPDATE: Thank you everyone for the kind words, prayers and assurance. After 24 hours of struggle, my wonderful, beautiful mother passed gracefully and peacefully at 6:19am this morning. I was blessed to be by her side with my dad, my wife, my oldest sister and her son when she took one final breath and went to be with God.
I will miss her greatly, but find comfort in knowing she is in a better place now. Dad and I have had little sleep, but we have managed to stay busy today and not dwell on things.
Again, thank you for helping me through this rough 48 hours!!!This message has been edited. Last edited by: JDHunz, April 01, 2019 05:55 PM
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March 31, 2019, 07:04 AM
Brother
Prayers sent, may you and your family have Peace.
March 31, 2019, 07:11 AM
striker1
Prayers for you and the family ...
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March 31, 2019, 07:18 AM
PHPaul
Best thoughts from here.
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March 31, 2019, 07:25 AM
dedguy
Prayers sent for your Mom and Dad.
March 31, 2019, 07:28 AM
Outnumbered
May you lean on the comfort of God, and knowing that a lot of people here care about you and your family, and are lifting you and especially your mom and dad up in their prayers.
March 31, 2019, 07:30 AM
Tailhook 84
Prayers sent. You're an awesome son to love and care for your parents like you do.
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March 31, 2019, 07:31 AM
h2oys
Prayers said and sent, all while bleary eyed, because your story reminds me of my parents situation not that long ago.
May all of you find peace and know your invisible friends are here for each of you.
March 31, 2019, 07:36 AM
taco68
Prayers sent. May you and your family find comfort in these times!
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March 31, 2019, 07:41 AM
bronicabill
Prayers being lifted up for your family right now!
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March 31, 2019, 07:46 AM
Hunthelp
prayers up; lots of prayers.
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March 31, 2019, 07:57 AM
Gutpile Charlie
My prayers are with you and your family.
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March 31, 2019, 07:58 AM
pepsiblue
Sorry to hear this friend. Praying for strength for you and your father.
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March 31, 2019, 07:59 AM
jandersd
Praying for you and your family in this difficult time
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March 31, 2019, 07:59 AM
arfmel
You’re all in my prayers.
March 31, 2019, 08:10 AM
CoolRich59
So sorry to hear this. Your Mom and your family will be in my prayers.
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March 31, 2019, 08:12 AM
BGULL
All our prayers for y’all.
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March 31, 2019, 08:13 AM
Patriot
May the Lord bless you and keep you May the Lord make His face shine upon you And be gracious to you May the The Lord lift up His countenance upon you And give you peace.
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March 31, 2019, 08:21 AM
Skins2881
You guys getting to see her is quite the blessing. Too many don't get that chance. Prayers for your father and whole family.
