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January 27, 2019, 04:56 AM
pbslinger
Marriage, aging, and hearing
I commented to my wife that during our Florida vacation we've had to repeat things a lot.

Her: "Yes, I've had to repeat myself a lot"

Me: "I have also" She had a startled look on her face.

Me: "One of us or both of us has hearing loss and/or one of us or both of us talks too softly"

Her: "You have hearing loss and you talk too sofly"
January 27, 2019, 05:27 AM
arfmel
Of course it’s you. You ought to have known without being told.
Wink
January 27, 2019, 05:46 AM
95flhr
Been there.

I now have hearing aids and she still repeats herself, as do I.




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January 27, 2019, 06:52 AM
Ironbutt
My wife used to tear out the Miracle Ear ads from magazines & attach them to the refrigerator door with magnets. She'd also watch my expression when people were speaking to me to make sure I heard them correctly. Like, "SHE WANTS TO KNOW WHAT DRESSING YOU WANT ON YOUR SALAD."

I have hearing aids now & they work pretty well, but the absolute best part about having hearing aids is you can remove them whenever you want & everything goes back to being nice & bland again.


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January 27, 2019, 07:43 AM
braillediver
I have the same problem and I'm not even married.


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January 27, 2019, 08:54 AM
henryaz
 
My wife has a bad habit of continuing a sentence and the rest while walking away from me, or facing away from me. I couldn't hear that 25 years ago, and still cannot. I think my hearing has degraded somewhat at age 72, but I can hear people facing me just fine.



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January 27, 2019, 08:58 AM
Cliff
quote:
Originally posted by arfmel:
Of course it’s you. You ought to have known without being told.
Wink


Yep. I feel his pain.



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January 27, 2019, 09:36 AM
ensigmatic
quote:
Originally posted by pbslinger:
Her: "You have hearing loss and you talk too sofly"





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January 27, 2019, 09:56 AM
Ozarkwoods
Years back my wife found out she had hearing loss, partially from getting many free VIP tickets to concerts and being up close to the stage, and partially from an abusive EX who broke her ear drum. I jumped on he idea of hearing aids for her thinking I would no longer need to repeat myself and I could listen to the TV at a normal level and not having it on SCREAM! I thought $2500 well spent. She wears the hearing aids when she’s out, but as soon as she comes back to the motorhome she takes them out....TV level remains on SCREAM and I still repeat myself when talking to her. Roll Eyes


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January 27, 2019, 10:01 AM
Lord Vaalic
Not marriage... but my mother cant hear worth a damn and refuses to acknowledge it. You have to repeat everything to her until you are frustrated and then you wind up yelling at her. She cant hear the TV unless its so loud you cant even be in the same room, and forget talking to her on the phone.




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January 27, 2019, 10:24 AM
pedropcola
It’s a wife thing. Granted I have lost some range from hanging around turbine engines for 30+ years but still. I ask a question and hear no reply. I ask again and am told that she answered already. Well.... I heard that so how did I not hear the 30 seconds earlier reply? I think it’s because she talks real quiet and is trying to convince me I’m slowly going insane. Well, I am married so maybe she is correct. Lol
January 27, 2019, 10:27 AM
goose5
I live in a family full of mumblers.


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January 27, 2019, 10:31 AM
sjtill
My wife and I are thinking about keeping a list of amusing misunderstandings based on what we heard vs. what was said—we agree that wouldn’t have happened 50 years ago.
Unfortunately since our memories are also not what they were 50 years ago I can’t repeat any of them back to you. Big Grin


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January 27, 2019, 10:36 AM
reflex/deflex 64
All the poor decisions as regards my hearing, then last month the wife finally got herself hearing aids. Shoulda done it five years ago I guess.

I imagine I’ll be in line soon enough. Now the tv is a bit too loud for her.


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January 27, 2019, 10:37 AM
Vanwall
I have a hearing loss and have hearing aids. They help a lot. My wife will say something when she is in another room, I walk into the room and she will say never mind!

The other thing I have happen is she ask about something and I will say what? Her response is I told you about that. No either I didn’t hear or she forgot to tell me.

Life with hearing loss
January 27, 2019, 10:59 AM
arcwelder
What?


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January 27, 2019, 11:40 AM
wxl
quote:
Originally posted by henryaz:
 
My wife has a bad habit of continuing a sentence and the rest while walking away from me, or facing away from me. I couldn't hear that 25 years ago, and still cannot. I think my hearing has degraded somewhat at age 72, but I can hear people facing me just fine.


I suffer the same malady.
January 27, 2019, 02:20 PM
Fredward
My wife rarely stops speaking long enough for me to talk, so it doesn't matter. When I do speak, she finishes my sentences. Usually wrongly.
January 27, 2019, 04:54 PM
0-0
Am there, doing that.... Roll Eyes

Don't know the first thing about hearing aids and my wife loves to talk to me when one of us is not even in the room or nearby.

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January 27, 2019, 06:12 PM
Sunset_Va
quote:
Originally posted by goose5:
I live in a family full of mumblers.


Its not just your family, although I think theres some hidden wit you stated.

The young people today, cannot talk to anyone while facing them, and most of them mumble.

By the year 2075 coherent talk will be extinct.


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