Mental illness and guns and my cousin is dead

January 04, 2021, 07:05 AM

The day after New Years, my cousin was shot twice in his house by another cousin. My cousin Russ was 72 and was the stalwart for the family. I was not involved with my family as I moved away when I was young. Another cousin who shot him was schizophrenic and had been accusing family members that they were hiding his dead mother and snapped apparently. He shot Russ twice in the chest and Russ was killed instantly. I don't have all of the details but Russ's wife had gone upstairs and heard two gun shots and my name sake - yep same name as me, was running out the door as she came down stairs. He hasn't been caught yet but I suspect that won't matter in the end and he will probably take his own life.Having been in the military I have seen my share of violence but this hits far to close to home. Russ was a great person to everyone he met and helped many family members over the years. Now to figure out how to deal with this. As I always say, I don't post a lot on here but spend several sessions a day on the forum and I wanted to share this.

“Our actions may be impeded...
But there can be no impeding our intentions or our dispositions. Because we can accommodate and adapt. The mind adapts and converts to its own purposes the obstacle to our acting.

The impeding to action advances action.

What stands in the way becomes the way.”

― Marcus Aurelius

January 04, 2021, 07:16 AM

Redhookbklyn

My condolences on the loss of your cousin.

January 04, 2021, 07:21 AM

cgode

Ugh....what a horrible chain of events! My condolences to you and family

January 04, 2021, 07:23 AM

V-Tail

Very sad to hear of this. You have my prayers.

January 04, 2021, 07:24 AM

irreverent

I’m very sorry for your loss and this terribly sad story.

January 04, 2021, 07:39 AM

NapoleonSolo

Thanks very much guys. It's times like this that we see how quickly life is taken and why we should make sure every day we are thankful for this life and enjoy our time here more.

January 04, 2021, 07:45 AM

calugo

Sorry to hear of your loss, prayers for all concerned

January 04, 2021, 08:03 AM

Outnumbered

That's simply terrible. My sincerest condolences. Prayers up for all involved!

January 04, 2021, 08:29 AM

chellim1

My condolences and my prayers on the loss of your cousin. I'm sorry. I wish there was a way to bring people back when stupid, irrational things happen.

"Some things are apparent. Where government moves in, community retreats, civil society disintegrates and our ability to control our own destiny atrophies. The result is: families under siege; war in the streets; unapologetic expropriation of property; the precipitous decline of the rule of law; the rapid rise of corruption; the loss of civility and the triumph of deceit. The result is a debased, debauched culture which finds moral depravity entertaining and virtue contemptible."
-- Justice Janice Rogers Brown

"The United States government is the largest criminal enterprise on earth."
-rduckwor

January 04, 2021, 09:07 AM

220-9er

Not much to say other than sorry to hear about things like this.

January 04, 2021, 09:11 AM

h2oys

Very sorry to hear this sad story and please accept our condolences.

January 04, 2021, 09:29 AM

MikeinNC

Sorry for your loss SOLO.....

"Violence, naked force, has settled more issues in history than has any other factor.” Robert A. Heinlein

“You may beat me, but you will never win.” sigmonkey-2020

“A single round of buckshot to the torso almost always results in an immediate change of behavior.” Chris Baker

January 04, 2021, 09:46 AM

slosig

My condolences on your loss.

January 04, 2021, 09:48 AM

k5blazer

So very sorry to hear of your loss.

January 04, 2021, 11:05 AM

arfmel

That’s terrible. My condolences.

January 04, 2021, 11:27 AM

old rugged cross

I am sorry too NS. Glad you let us know. Nobody is isolated from these types of things happening. I am glad you are here and stay connected. All the best and prayers for you and your family.