I do not share tons of personal info anywhere really. Here is almost the only place I regularly post.

In my years circling the sun I have done many different things. Embarked on some real adventures. Had some great ones. Took some pretty big risks. Avoided ones that would of been pretty big mistakes. No different than a lot of guys and gals here.
My wife of many years has been my rock. Has been by my side for virtually all of it, Could not of done any of it with out her there. She has always helped weed out things that would of been mistakes and was one to do the hard work beside me to make things payoff in the end. At the start she could not really see what the goal was persae in many of them. But when things came together they almost were always better than I had dreamed because of her. She made them that way.

Many of those things are carved into the book of life now. Proud accomplishments for sure. Still able to enjoy many of them.

But I am feeling like there is one more in me.

At this stage it would be a big for us. As we both have lots of iron's in the fire for an undisclosed amount of time. Family things mostly. Could they be managed. Yes they could. Would it take me from my wife and my home for periods of time. Yeah it would. It would also take substantial family assets. But in a few years it would be well worth it.
My wife knows what I want to do. Will she support it? Probably but it is a big ask and we are moving into a period of life where it is a now or never deal. It has been something I have wanted to do for a few decades.

I have always lived by the moto nothing ventured, nothing gained. I was not going to sit on the sideline while the world zoomed by and then wondered what the hell happened. That was not in the cards. So it has been great for the most part. And yes,I have made my share of mistakes as well.

This would not be any crowning achievement. Just one more added to the book and to be enjoyed for the time left.

This has nothing to do with money or wealth. It is not about any of that. We do the best we can to get by just like everyone else. For me this about a mindset and a way of life. And it will be that way as long as it last's.


So do you have one more in you?

btw, we are not talking about the villages here, lol.

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I don’t have anything more to prove; I had one that was never attained and will never be. It’s a disappointment but such is life. I am in a good place now in life and am productively playing out the rest of my life. Heck, I even started cooking on a Traeger using my Excel skills and I’ve had great feedback about my briskets, pork chops, T-bone steaks, and last Saturday, 3 pork butts for a pulled pork bbq party for about 30 people at my house.

But since you shared you have one more, I’m not trying to dissuade you from it since I don’t have the slightest idea what it is and I don’t want to know. I just want to list some of the decision process making that people use just for you to confirm in your head that, yes, you covered that method.

There’s the pro and con method where you list all the pros you can think of on one side and all the cons you can think of on the other side. You then compare the two lists to gauge which way you’re leaning towards.

Then there’s the analysis where you come out with the best outcome, the worst outcome, and the most likely outcome. If possible, you’d attach a probability estimate for the three outcomes. Then you can consider if the benefits you gain from the best outcome is worth the cost of the worst outcome and would you be satisfied with the most likely outcome.

There’s also the SWOT analysis where you analyze your Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats relative to the undertaking that you are considering.

Good luck.

Me- No. If you have it in you= Yes go for the gusto.

I don't regret anything I've ever tried or done, success or failure. When I talk to most people they seem to have led boring lives.

I do miss the passion, burning desire, adventure I had when I was younger.

I can relate ORC. Also have a great wife who has helped in our mutual success by keeping me focused at times.
I'm at a stage (early retirement) where I feel I still have a couple in me. It's something to look forward to.

I have nothing left to prove to myself, which is a fun way to move into my next phase. I have successfully help launch child #1 into my career field and he is kicking ass. Child #2 is now pursuing her masters and doing clinical rotations but she brilliant and driven so no worry there. They’ll soon be off the payroll and it is about my wife and I. I have had success beyond my imagination and some pretty big flops along the way. My wife has been there with full support at every turn. My priorities have shifted my focus to a super small group of friends and family that I enjoy spending my time with.

I too have one more left in me. I’ll do it full throttle and wide open like I always do. The one big difference, there is nothing left to prove to myself. I am going to enjoy the journey without the baggage of stress that comes with trying to create your personal brand. I say talk to your wife and pull that train out of the station if she is in agreement.

Thanks guys. Not about trying to prove anything either.

And as far as an in depth analysis. Done to a degree. I have never been one to over analyze.
My take has always been if it is important enough and it makes sense. Then do it. If not, move on.

I don't think so. I have always assumed you are older than me so I'm thinking 60's or more. At this point in life "nothing ventured nothing gained" is a bit of an oxymoron to me. If it fails it sounds like the downside is you wasted a bunch of time away from your wife and lost a substantial amount of money. If it works it will pay off big years from now. Well, time is the biggest valuable thing you have left. Enjoy it, spend it wisely, enjoy your loved ones. Money is just money, doesn't sound like you need more, you sound bored and want an adventure. Which might be reason enough. Good luck.

^^^ Really?

I am in my mid 60’s and I have always thought that I had/have AT LEAST one more big adventure in me.
I hope that I have that feeling until the day I die!

Like ORC I have been fortunate to have a great wife who has stood behind me on virtually all of my adventures and somewhat crazy ideas. As he stated a great partner is part of what makes the adventure great.

^^^. Could not agree more.

Pedro is making some assumptions on things I said which I did not really make clear. So I understand his thoughts. And appreciate them. They are valuable

This is not a life draining financial deal or will take me from my family and home for months at a time. Nothing like that. It is not something I would attempt as a way to make $. Just not lose it.

I am also not bored. Far from it actually. If this would happen it would actually allow me to put my feet up and enjoy being in place I have always dreamed of spending some down time at.

Lots of posting here, and yet we don't know what the hell you're talking about! One more WHAT? I don't even know how the hell to respond here. Seeing as how it as 'crazy idea', maybe you should do it...but maybe you shouldn't!

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Originally posted by nhracecraft:
Lots of posting here, and yet we don't know what the hell you're talking about! One more WHAT? I don't even know how the hell to respond here. Seeing as how it as 'crazy idea', maybe you should do it...but maybe you shouldn't!

Well I did throw you a tidbit in telling you it isn't about "the villages"

Take it for what it is, not what it isn't. Like others have done and run with it, or not .

I did make some assumptions because your post didn’t give us much to work with. So assumptions it has to be until you let us into the rat maze. Lol

Seriously I wish you well on...whatever it is.

I chuckle at old guys who think they have one more great adventure. Maybe you do and maybe you don’t. That was my only point. If you miscalculate you can really screw things up without the time or ability to recover.

You did say it would take you away from your family, you did say it would “take substantial family assets”, and I have to say it sounds like your wife will support you even if she doesn’t think it’s a great idea.

We have all seen things like this. ORC, I am not saying this is you, I don’t know you at all. I have known plenty of people who have a drive to do..something, just to, I don’t know, show they still have it, give Father Time the middle finger, because they are bored or dissatisfied, etc.

Decisions made at an older age that drag your spouse along with/without her desire to be dragged, substantial family assets, and would take you away for periods of time from wife and family, aren’t easily made. Once again, good luck with your decision. My only actual advice is that you actually find out what your wife wants. Her saying ok to your plans isn’t the same as she wants you to do it.

Again Pedro, a lot of your assumptions are incorrect. But I am not faulting you for that. Just where your mind chooses to go fwer. It's fine as I am purposely providing few details and it has a tendency to irritate a small segment who might read this. That is ok. Those that have read and responded mostly understand.

I do completely agree with your last paragraph for sure.

As far as affecting my wife/family and whether it is a success or failure, etc. On a scale of one to ten. One being no affect 10 having the most affect. Either having a positive or negative outcome it is barely a three either way. So not life changing in a significant way one way or another.
Probably falls into the "buying a new higher end sports car category for many folks. With some additional impact due to some travel and logistic challenges.

Thanks guys.

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Originally posted by pedropcola:
I chuckle at old guys who think they have one more great adventure.

Bad take, IMO.

Adventures, big or small, things to pursue, is what gives life flavor.

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Originally posted by pedropcola:
My only actual advice is that you actually find out what your wife wants. Her saying ok to your plans isn’t the same as she wants you to do it.

Of course it's wise to include your life's companion in your decisions, but, sometimes, maybe you have to do what you need to do, regardless. Two stories:

A couple that are, or were, friends of ours. I say "or were" because the husband is gone. Upon retirement he wanted to jump into his 'vette and go on cross-country tours. His afraid-of-her-own-shadow, stick-in-the-mud wife was having none of it. He amused himself with golf for a while, but, that eventually paled. He turned to alcohol. Health steadily declined. One night, getting out of bed and going downstairs, drunk, he crashed down the stairs. Broke his neck. Lived his last couple years physically and mentally impaired--a shadow of his former self.

Another couple that were close friends of ours, parents of one of my best friends. Husband's health started declining a few years after retirement. I asked both my buddy and his wife "What does he do to occupy his time? To amuse or challenge himself?" Nothing. Absolutely nothing. Prior to retirement he'd been fine. A couple years ago he passed away.

I'm seventy-two years old. Retired these six years, now.

My adventure the last three years is to do something they say can't be done starting at the age I did: Learn to play golf well. (And, for those who think that's not much challenge I say this: You've obviously no idea how hard it really is.)

If/when I succeed or lose interest in this pursuit: I'll find another.

I've no plans to go out dying of boredom and inactivity.

I kind of have three rules for this kind of thing:

1. Have the resources; financial, emotional, time, relationships, etc., to be supported in the attempt;

2. Have the balance to stick the landing after you jump; and

3. Never stick your dick in crazy.

If you can handle those three things, it sounds like great fun.

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:

So do you have one more in you?

Nope...I retired over 12 years ago and have been perfecting laziness ever since. I broke my balls for 45+ years to get to this point and I wouldn't have it any other way.

It takes a bunch of time, it doesn't take a bunch of time, it takes a lot of money, well no it doesn't, its a great adventure, well it is really just a 3 on the great scale of life.

Ya got me boss, no idea if it's a good idea or not. I'll keep checking the obituaries just in case it wasn't.

Once again, I wish you well but I have no idea what we are even wishing you well about. If your goal was to keep us in the dark so we can't steal your plans, you have succeeded. lol

Is it midget clown porn? I have always felt that is an underserved market. Especialy of the pizza delivery guy or unsuspecting plumber variety.

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
So do you have one more in you?

I've never had one in me, but hey, I'm not judging you.

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It's fine as I am purposely providing few details and it has a tendency to irritate a small segment who might read this. That is ok.

This you my brother

No need to pollute the thread any further. Appreciate you thoughts though