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Unapologetic Old School Curmudgeon |
I've always been kind of strict and kind of the one less likely to bend the rules. My son is getting a little older now and I know he wont be a kid for much longer. The wife and I have accepted we wont be having any more kids, we have tried but miscarriages and health issues have stopped that, and we have tried adoption, but that didn't work out at all. Just realizing that lately I am letting him get away with things and spoiling him more than I normally would. Don't weep for the stupid, or you will be crying all day | ||
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Semper Fi - 1775 |
How old is he? You and I are very similar in how we raise our boys, as I catch myself doing the same thing now that they are 14. Overall they are very good kids though, but I still "tighten them up" from time to time, just to remind them that I am still ultimately the boss. An example being that I might permit them to argue a point longer than I normally would, and will occasionally give in to a logical argument. Talking back or not listening to their mom is a deal breaker though, and I fall right back into "dick dad" when that happens. ___________________________ All it takes...is all you got. ____________________________ For those who have fought for it, Freedom has a flavor the protected will never know ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ | |||
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delicately calloused |
Don't get soft. Communicate with him why you are correcting him and that you love him more than your own life, but discipline will follow regardless. Greater love is shown in discipline. Regret is all that follows softness. You’re a lying dog-faced pony soldier | |||
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Member |
The goal is always to prepare the child for a happy successful life. Know their dad loves them is important. But learning self control and responsibility is also important. "Spoiling" would always be a bad thing; but it is such a fine nuance to what is really "spoiling." You have to go with what you REALLY THINK is right. "Crom is strong! If I die, I have to go before him, and he will ask me, 'What is the riddle of steel?' If I don't know it, he will cast me out of Valhalla and laugh at me." | |||
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Member |
As my son has gotten older he is becime more of a friend. Most if my work is done; now, I'm reaping the benefits. He's a smart, handsome, respectable young man. ========================================== Just my 2¢ ____________________________ Clowns to the left of me, Jokers to the right ♫♫♫ | |||
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Go ahead punk, make my day |
Agreed - no need to by a tyrant, but the teenage years are rife with potential pitfalls. Not saying an extra trip for ice cream or 30 min more computer time is gonna ruin it - usually but that age they've either "got it" or they don't. Parenting ebbs and flows - sometimes you can loosen up with more privaledges, sometimes you need to buckle down. But respect and responsibility are things that should never slide. | |||
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Back, and to the left |
This is good to hear. I wish more people felt this way. | |||
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Muzzle flash aficionado |
My dad pulled his belt out if I disrespected my mom. I could get away with many slighter things, but that was not tolerated. flashguy Texan by choice, not accident of birth | |||
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Ammoholic |
My dad had a razor strop hanging in his closet. We all knew exactly where it was. I don't recall it ever being used on any of us, but you didn't see us pushing the boundaries either... | |||
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