There are alot of good folks and great opinions here on this forum. The only thing that I would add is really try to keep her out of pain. I think that seeing her pain free for the most part will be a huge relief to your dad.

One thing I forgot earlier - interview hospice services NOW, and find one that works for her. They can be indispensable to the family by keeping her comfortable, helping her with things, and giving your father time to just be with her or to go out to the garden for a few minutes.

If the estimates on time are wrong, hospice is STILL an option. There have been people who lived much longer than estimates, and went in and out of hospice help several times.

Above all, you have my prayers.

My mom passed peacefully on June 5 following complications from multiple myeloma. It was sooner than we had expected but not completely a surprise.

My father is doing about as well as could be expected. He has good days and bad days. It took some time for her loss to really sink in - I'm still not sure it has fully hit him yet.

She passed just a couple weeks shy of hr 52nd anniversary with my dad. She was a 1 of 3 children of a German immigrant living in Queens, NY. All 3 were very tall, with my mom measuring in at an imposing 6' 2". All 3 went on to become successful doctors. My mom was a bit of a trailblazer as the only woman in her medical school class in the mid-60s. She had a private practice for many years, but once her 3 kids were born, she gave it up with no hesitation to raise her family. She was a guest on the Phil Donahue Show discussing women who gave up careers to raise children. As a stay-at-home mom, she took up managing the family finances and became an extremely competent investor. She left my father in very good shape financially.

Her life revolved around her family and raising her kids to be good and successful adults was her primary focus. I'd say she did a decent job, as my brother and I graduated law school and my sister became a highly-regarded sports medicine doctor. I didn't stay in the law - I switched to a career in the financial markets, owing largely to my interest that developed watching her invest over the years.

I am glad that she went peacefully without pain or fear and that my father was able to be with her when she passed. It had been a rough year and I am glad that she no longer has to endure it. Rest in peace, Mom!

That's a beautiful tribute to your Mother!

I hope that your father adjusts well to the change, and that his remaining time can be relatively happy and active.

Thank you for sharing this with us...

Don

So sorry to hear. Great advice from everyone else. Prayers for you.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I wish you and the family comfort through this.

May your Mom be at peace knowing she had such a great impact on this world. That was a nice tribute.

Our prayers as well, don't have a lot of specific advice, but frequent engagement and contact should allow you to gauge how things are going...