My sister is in the latter stages of the dying process
My sister, who I have loathed for years is in a hospice dying of bone cancer.
On Sunday a volunteer pastor who befriended her contacted me to let me know.
My spouse and adult child were going to see her and I went along.
She was obese the last time I saw her; today she was gaunt like survivors of the Holocaust were when liberated by Allied forces.
She is getting palliative care only. Based on my experience she has only a few days left.
It was strange how quickly my loathing disappeared, even though she crossed so may boundaries and did so many unforgivable deeds, all without caring about the consequences to others, that I thought I would never want to see her, speak to her, or give two shits about her.
She recognized me and said in surprise “My God.” I replied “Let’s hope not.”
I post this only to observe that sometimes you have to choke back your righteous anger to do something for a person who you loathe, but if you can, do so. For yourself, if not for the other person.
She has donated her body to a medical college. When they are done, she’ll be cremated and the cremains sent to me. After I have them I’ll take them to Wyoming and scatter them where she and I scattered father and mother’s ashes, north of Walcott about 20 miles.
Edited to fix typos.This message has been edited. Last edited by: Sig2340, April 18, 2018 10:48 AM
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April 17, 2018, 08:24 PM
Skins2881
Sorry D, no matter your feelings for her a month ago, you are doing the right thing.
Jesse
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April 17, 2018, 08:35 PM
flashguy
In the long run, blood will out. You did not say how old you both are, but it is never too late to make things right. Family should be together at death, I think. I was with my sister and my mother when they died; I missed being with my dad by just a few minutes. Sad occasions, all, but I wanted to be with them. I believe you will be glad you saw your sister.
flashguy
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April 17, 2018, 08:37 PM
P-220
I am so very sorry. I too think you did the right thing.
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Steve
April 17, 2018, 08:39 PM
nhtagmember
my condolences in advance of the inevitable
I think you did the right thing - as hard as it was
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April 17, 2018, 08:50 PM
sigmonkey
I am sorry fir the pain you have known and know tie this day.
May it be diminished each day until one day you are surprised that you did not realize it was no more in your life.
And a prayer for your sister's comfort.
"the meaning of life, is to give life meaning" ✡ Ani Yehudi אני יהודי Le'olam lo shuv לעולם לא שוב!
April 17, 2018, 08:53 PM
BGULL
So sorry, our prayers and condolences.
Bill Gullette
April 17, 2018, 08:56 PM
pingman274
quote:
Originally posted by Sig2340: My sister, who I have loathed for years is in a hospice dying of bone cancer.
On Sunday a volunteer pastor who befriended her contacted me to let me know.
My spouse and adult child were going to see her and I went along.
She was obese the last time I saw her; today she was gaunt like survivors of the Holocaust were went liberated by Allied forces.
She is getting palliative care only. Based on my experience she has only a few days left.
It was strange how quickly my loathing disappeared, even though she crossed so may boundaries and did so many unforgiveable deeds, all without caring about the consequences to others, that I thought I would never want to see her, speak to her, or give two shits about her.
She recognized me and said is surprise “My God.” I replied “Let’s hope not.”
I post this only to observe that sometimes you have to choke back your righteous anger to do something for a person who you loathe, but if you can, do so. For yourself, if not for the other person.
She has donated her body to a medical college. When they are done, she’ll be cremated and the cremains sent to me. After I have them I’ll take them to Wyoming and scatter them where she and I scattered father and mother’s ashes, north of Walcott about 20 miles.
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April 17, 2018, 08:59 PM
0-0
Sorry to hear this, brothe.
Currently walking in your shoes and they hurt deeply and painfully. My sister will survive, it appears, and recover, but now my mother is in deep doodoo. Losing her marbles and full of anger and hate. Wish I had no time for them but my soul commands otherwise.
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April 17, 2018, 09:00 PM
clubleaf206
Very sorry. My condolences.
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April 17, 2018, 09:25 PM
sig 226
I'm sorry to hear.. in the end there is only family, nothing else matters.
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April 17, 2018, 09:28 PM
Sailor1911
quote:
Originally posted by Skins2881: Sorry D, no matter your feelings for her a month ago, you are doing the right thing.
Could not have said it better.
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April 17, 2018, 09:32 PM
vthoky
Prayers up, David.
God bless America.
April 17, 2018, 09:44 PM
Yanert98
quote:
Originally posted by Sailor1911:
quote:
Originally posted by Skins2881: Sorry D, no matter your feelings for her a month ago, you are doing the right thing.
Could not have said it better.
Agreed. It's a blessing to have been given the time.
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April 17, 2018, 10:02 PM
12131
Sorry, Dave.
Q
April 17, 2018, 10:04 PM
Pale Horse
Sorry to hear that man. My prayers are with you all.
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April 17, 2018, 10:05 PM
chellim1
quote:
Originally posted by sig 226: I'm sorry to hear.. in the end there is only family, nothing else matters.
Add to that the knowledge that you are doing the right thing. Prayers for your family.
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April 17, 2018, 10:08 PM
Wayniac
quote:
It was strange how quickly my loathing disappeared, even though she crossed so may boundaries and did so many unforgiveable deeds, all without caring about the consequences to others, that I thought I would never want to see her, speak to her, or give two shits about her.
That my friend, is humanity. God bless you and your sister.
April 17, 2018, 10:12 PM
old rugged cross
Very sorry. Prayers for you all. I too think there will be peace for us all.