Long story short I lost my last grandparent this past Sunday. It’s ok, we had a long time to emotionally prepare for my grandmothers passing and I do truly believe she is happy to be with her maker. She was in pain there at the end so I find comfort that she is no longer in any pain. We were not incredibly close but she was always kind to me.

Yesterday I get news that my brother (whom I have not seen in a few weeks) probably has covid. The funeral is tomorrow and my brother was in contact with my parents only a few days ago. He cannot find a rapid test anywhere (I mean anywhere his wife and my mother called every pharmacy within a 100 mile radius) and is reluctant to go to the ER or a hospital to get tested when he feels like absolute crap already. I really wanted to say a few words about my grandmother, her faith and kind spirit and be there to support my father who is taking this remarkably well. This sucks.

Given the awful hand I have been dealt I think I would be foolish to put my family at risk and attend the funeral given the recent contact my brother has had with my family.

What a crap situation. It felt like no matter what I do it is a lose, lose decision.

Thanks for letting me vent guys.

I’d go.

First, I'm sorry for your loss.

But please... change the title of your thread to give an indication of what the thread is about.
Something like: my grandmother died and my brother probably has covid

Your thread title is 'clickbait':
Oh man what a series of terrible events

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He cannot find a rapid test anywhere (I mean anywhere his wife and my mother called every pharmacy within a 100 mile radius) and is reluctant to go to the ER or a hospital to get tested when he feels like absolute crap already.

Try an urgent care, like Total Access. They are convenient and much better than the ER for testing.

Is there anyway you all can delay the funeral?

Maybe try your local county health department. Many in my area do free drive through tests with rapid results.
As for the funeral, you need to be responsible for your families health first. Also depends some on how careful the others in your family are being too.
If there is an outdoor burial you could attend that part with caution. The ultimate disrespect to your grandmother would be to have someone get really sick or die from attendance in this event.

Some Walgreens use a rapid test called ID-NOW that gives results in about an hour. They do it through the drive-thru by appointment. They give you a swab, you stick it in both nostrils, and they put the swab in a machine from Abbott Labs that runs the test.

If your brother can get an appointment, that’s the one he should do.

I had my son do the PCR test at different Walgreens and got the same negative result late in the evening the next day. With that one, the sample gets sent to a lab and it can take up to 72 hours to get results.

Walmart.com had the at home test kits yesterday, so we bought three to have on hand.

If he can’t get tested, just have him wear a good properly fitted N95 mask. I he has to shave a mustache/beard, so be it.

Sorry about your Grandmother, but like you said, she’s found everlasting peace and joy.

You could always do a FaceTime eulogy. Have someone set up an iPad and attend via phone.

Sorry for your loss. I was told I probably had Covid a while back and it was a headcold. Still contagious so I laid low for a week but you don't really know unless you get tested.

Tell your brother to get in now. This is from an anesthesiologist. Don’t fuck around with this. I did not and spend two weeks in the hospital.

Stickman, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I think you're making the right decision - I believe your first duty is to keep your family safe and being conservative may be the right play.

But I hope you find a solution that better balances your desires. If not, take comfort that you're trying to avoid making a bad situation potentially even worse. I'm sure everyone understands.

I feel I could be exposed to it any time I venture out of my house so I'd continue my life as if it were just another day.

So sorry for your loss.

My mother-in-law passed away last month and a graveside service was held a few days later with the immediate family.

A memorial service was held 1.5 weeks ago and approximately 70 family members attended from OR, CA, NM, AZ, KS, and TX where the service was held.

The day before, all out ow town relatives stayed in the same three hotels on the same property and congregated in the lounge. Also, there was a dinner and gathering that night at one of my wife's sister's house and the service the next day.

It was a great time as the surviving siblings and their spouses are all in there 80's.

The positive COVID tests started being reported 3 days later.

My wife and I were tested Saturday, she is positive and I am negative. She feels like she has a mild case of flu. I still feel fine.

So far, 18 attendees have tested positive. There are others that report symptoms but are not getting tested.

NO ONE regrets attending Lena's service, NO ONE.