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Semper Fidelis Marines
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I have never even casually dated one, advice? she is @ 40, kids, divorced and on her own and solid on her feet.


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All I can tell you is what sargents have told their troops forever.

Here's what they all said:
Don't marry foreign women. They will say anything, do anything, be anything in order to get you to marry them and after a few years, you go from being King Shit in their eyes to being Dip Shit.

I've seen it myself a number of times with people I know.
 
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My experience from my USAF days: Many women you meet overseas just want to go to the land of the big BX.


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The Philippines is a matriarchal society. She may be culturally conditioned to give deference to her mother's wishes, even if she can't or won't articulate to you why. This may be irritating to some westerners who are not used to this.

Edit: I wrote a bunch, but decided that generalizations may be more harmful than helpful. The above is just a socially/culturally significant fact that might help you navigate your relationship.
 
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To me, there are all types of women - race / ethnicity is incidental. Generalizations may be problematic in this context.




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To me, there are all types of women - race / ethnicity is incidental. Generalizations may be problematic in this context.

This. Different cultures may have different dynamics, but women think/feel so differently than men that the cultural differences pale next to the differences between women and men.

Beyond that, absolutely look at the family dynamic. A wise old friend of mine once said, “Take a good long look at your potential future mother in law. The daughter may well end up acting (and looking, though that is less important to most) a lot like her mother. If you can’t stand the mother, think long and hard before you marry the daughter.

Not that I’m any kind of expert - I’ve only been married once and she’s only been putting up with me for a little over thirty years. ETA, well a little over thirty two if you count the two years to the day between the first date and the wedding. Here’s hoping she never comes to her senses. Wink
 
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A friend in the service met a phillipine gal when deployed in the sandbox 15 years ago. They're happily married stateside now with 3 kids, oldest is now a teenager. Worked for them..
 
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Originally posted by Aeteocles:
The Philippines is a matriarchal society. She may be culturally conditioned to give deference to her mother's wishes, even if she can't or won't articulate to you why. This may be irritating to some westerners who are not used to this.


Quoted for emphasis. I'd also add this: In casual observations of the culture, Filipino women wear the pants in their marriage to Filipino men. I've worked with a number of the men & it seemed pretty clear. Of course, as with any stereotype there could be exceptions.



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You date the woman, you date the whole family. They love to cook too.
 
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Don't.

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To me, there are all types of women - race / ethnicity is incidental. Generalizations may be problematic in this context.
I agree with you about race / ethnicity, but culture differences, such as pointed out by Aeteocles, can bring some surprises.

In my bachelor days I dated women from a large variety of backgrounds. The society in which they grew up had a lot more influence than the ethnic content of their DNA.



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DO: not date her

DON'T: date her

There is always a big family in the phillipines. The goal is always the same; to get that family to the US.

That four bedroom place really can hold 30 people.
 
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DO: not date her

DON'T: date her

There is always a big family in the phillipines. The goal is always the same; to get that family to the US.

That four bedroom place really can hold 30 people.


Maybe if she wasn't born here and has family in the Philipines.

At 40, she's barely just past being a millennial and could easily have been born here.
 
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You may also be marrying an ex-husband.
Ex’s can make life miserable.
 
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Once everyone has posted their advice here and the thread dies down, ignore all of it and just date her. Live a little and just find out where it goes.
 
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Don't.

You're welcome.


I'll second that.


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Stay away from shoe stores. Frown
 
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Not thinking of her and there as broad generalizations is a fantastic start...

Two of my cousins are married to women from there as are a few male friends, plus I know a couple of guys from there as well. All lovely people, their families too, in my experience.
 
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If she seems like a solid good person and someone you like to be around, go for it.......Just NEVER EVER get into an argument in the kitchen or workshop......NO knives or sharp tools....just saying. Wink



And be very polite to her grandfather:
 
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You did not mention if she is in the Philippines, or in the US.

I can provide more input, but the more info from you is better.

My email is in my profile. Feel free to email.



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