So a guy asks a gal out for supper,
Never been out together before,
He plans on paying, she knows that.

An hour and 15 minutes goes by, they agree to leave together and spend some additional time together.

Both have only eatin half of their meal.

Question: Are "to go" boxes for the balance of the food considered gauche ?

What's the deal now says?

$70.00 for both people with the tip.

Would you take some for later?

Does it depend on what was served?

Nothing "gauche" about taking home leftovers. (What would be gauche is if the gal - knowing the guy is paying - orders a big appetizer followed by two entrees, with the express intent of taking most of the food home so she can make several more meals out of it. That's not "leftovers"... That's trying to milk the guy for multiple meals in one go.)


However, like with all leftovers, whether it's a good idea depends on what the food is, and where they're going afterwards.

For example: Leftover shrimp alfredo, it's hot outside, and they're planning to go see a movie for a few hours then go to the park for a few more hours? Nope. Nobody wants to eat spoiled shrimp and dairy that's been sitting out in a hot car for hours, nor does the driver want their car smelling like hot garlicky seafood for the next several days.

But many types of leftovers would be absolutely fine, provided they're going back to a house within a reasonable amount of time.

Take the leftovers with you.

At your age be yourself!

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Would you take some for later?

Doesn't bother me when a gal has a to go box for leftovers.

Personally, 99% I'm either a member of the clean plate club or it wasn't worthy of taking home.

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Does it depend on what was served?

To me, it matters more on what we're doing afterward and ambient temp. If we're going to another location and ambient temp is over 40F then the food will spoil so not worth getting it to go. If we're going to one of our places then to go box can be refrigerated so worth getting.

Take 'em. You are who you are. No sense hiding it. Besides, leftovers are great!

As a friend of mine who got divorced said once, "Getting laid is easy, finding someone you want to spend time with is hard."

Don't waste time on someone who doesn't let you be you.

If that's the biggest thing on your mind on a first date after 45 years, you've got nothing to worry about.

Congratz on getting yourself out there. That is a good thing.

That said, after being widowed about 9 years here's what I was offered and proved largely true for wimenz menopause and after, on dating sites.

All women by now are crazy, and they all lie about something (yea- men might have lied to them too). Your job is to find out what it is and see if you care.

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Personally, 99% I'm either a member of the clean plate club or it wasn't worthy of taking home.

Clean the plate club...that's what my family called it too!

As for the dating part, good luck. I'm in a similar position and finding a woman I can feel very comfortable with isn't easy.

I would like to echo Pace40'a answer!! -- Funny, and very true!!

Also, why not ask her how she feels about taking the food home for later or tomorrow? The way she answers might show more how she thinks...
Best wishes for your 1st date after a while!

Thanks to those choosing to help.

Not me, I am asking for a widowed friend.

After three years, of being alone someone told him that it would look cheap.



They both eat like birds, and he gets a to go box practically before the desert comes.

Tell her cat got to eat too, same as worms.

Not gauche at all.

True sorry about me and my lady. First date was end on June. Went out to a great place downtown known for their prime rib. Ordered up an end cut and it was absolutely ginormous. We both said yes when our server asked about take home boxes with our desert order.

We're getting ready to leave the restaurant and walk around downtown. My lady has this cutesy little leather backpack that she uses as a purse. She innocently asks,

"Do you want to put your meat in my backpack?"

I absolutely lost it I was laughing so hard. I was like,

"Really? on a first date?"

It's been a joke ever since and we're still going strong.

Perfectly acceptable, unless the meal was ordered extravagantly with the intention of leftovers. That said, if not, and they are just not big eaters, I'd say fine, and take a dessert too, as I had a great time.

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Originally posted by scratchy:
...unless the meal was ordered extravagantly with the intention of leftovers...

Been a few bad date extravagant ordering stories on the news recently including this one about a woman specifically ordering 53 fried pickles (i.e. 8.83 orders as were served in quantities of 6) and disappearing with the leftover pickles while the poor schmuck was in the restroom. $140 fried pickle bill.

I used take the leftovers and give them to a homeless person near the restaurant. I felt better about giving food rather than money and it generally scored goodwill with my date.

I'm more of the mindset that wasting perfectly good food by leaving it there is gauche.

Always take it home, even if you don't intend to eat it. It shows you aren't wasteful. Wimin like that you aren't.

Absolutely, I’d probably ask for your leftovers if I saw you weren’t going to take them.
Again, the caveat being that you didn’t overorder in the first place with the intent of an freebie meal at home.

I have a sibling that likes to come to our family dinners and eats very little but takes home around four plates worth of food to share with a “friend” who isn’t as welcome (due to some past behavior). That can grate on my nerves a bit, but hey, that’s family. This is a date.

If she says "let's get out of here and go to my place" with that look in her eye > I might just forget the leftovers .

These two people will be good for each other.

They have been eating a lunch together with 8 others,
Once a month, for three years.