Your feelings are the definition of family. It’s only natural to feel that more could have been done, just as are the pain of losing them. It’s what happens when we lose the ones we care about. Sorry for your loss.

I’m very sorry for your loss. I also believe it’s natural to feel heartbroken and relieved at the same time. Imho, you’re correct, nothing can hurt them now. Cherish the good memories.

My dad died in 2003. My mother passed in 2005. He was 67 she was 69. I told people I was a 49 YO orphan because that's how I felt. Even with your spouse and kids around you there is still that missing connection. But it will get better. Your dad had some bad luck but that doesn't necessarily mean he was unhappy. He had you helping him and the pride that he raised you to be the man that you are. I look at my boys that way and feel like I did ok. I hope I have plenty of good years left but I feel like my mission is accomplished.

Thank you, all.

sad to hear of your loss,

but it goes both ways. the worry , the concern , the guilt.

I know four sets of parents that wonder on a monthly basis if they did right by their kids.

its hard to watch people getting bad breaks or doing with out.

worrying about stuff that you can not control will send you ! to an early grave, do not do it.

your success may have been what they needed to get them through ,

We are commanded to honor our mother and father.

No greater honor than you are aware of all the things you mentioned in your post of your mother and father's life, hardships, love, commitment and things you did not put her (that are between the lines, and would cover pages...). All of this, from your heart, shared with strangers, are proof you have and will fulfill this command.

Let all they are and were in your life, be a blessing for all of your life, and may it endure.

Sorry for your loss. It’s very normal to feel pangs of guilt or “what if” with any loved one, much less one’s parents. Be comforted that their troubles and struggles in this world are left behind. All our prayers for you and your family.

When you loose a loved one, forgiveness is really important. Not just of the deceased but of yourself. My condolences and prayers.

Warren,

I still feel guilt as I could not attend my mother's funeral, I was hospitalized at the time as a result of my emergency bypass surgery the day following her passing. In fact, she passed just about the time they were attempting a cath procedure the evening before.

As interments are delayed due to the weather in the U.P. during the winter that was delayed until May that year. I was able to be there for that, some consolation.

I still have feelings of guilt as she and I had a strained relationship at times for various reasons, some were resolved and some were not.

Peace to you, do not dwell on the bad, remember the good times. Put it all in perspective, it's not easy but it can and will happen.