January 05, 2018, 01:37 PM
mark123Enforcing a PFA
In my humble opinion, step-daughter #1 is completely insane. Absolutely bonkers. About 6 months ago her felonious boy friend wanted to get frisky but she was tired from a long day of avoiding responsibility so she refused. Long story short, she claimed he restrained her, choked her and generally abused her.
She filed a no-contact protection from abuse with the court against him.
He hasn't stopped pestering her from that day by making fake accounts on social media and texting her with spoofed numbers. She changed her phone number so the texts stopped but the social media harassment continues. The police haven't done anything because they say they can't prove it's from him. Yesterday he messed up and sent a message to her with his picture attached to it and mentioned his amputee status. She's taking it to the DA to see if they can do anything.
Her mom, my wife, thinks it's a bad idea to make him upset for fear of revenge. I say why keep giving him power and allowing it to continue? Either do something or let the whole PFA thing go.
Oh, by the way, she's pregnant with his spawn. Anyone have a cyanide tablet for me?
What would you do? Encourage her to press charges or let it go?
January 05, 2018, 01:41 PM
RHINOWSOI don't know how you step-fathers deal with that kind of shit.
Hope you and the wife don't get stuck providing daily care for the spawn. But I know that is probably how it will go.
OT, press charges for sure. Then make sure she moves out of the house for good.
January 05, 2018, 01:52 PM
mark123quote:
Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
I don't know how you step-fathers deal with that kind of shit.
Cyanide pills sound better every day.
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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
Hope you and the wife don't get stuck providing daily care for the spawn. But I know that is probably how it will go.
That's one part I won't mind. Between a felon dad and an insane mom we're the only hope this child will ever have.
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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
OT, press charges for sure. Then make sure she moves out of the house for good.
Oh, she doesn't live with us. Thank the good Lord above.
January 05, 2018, 02:01 PM
jhe888I'd encourage her to pursue the charges. He doesn't sound like the kind to back off. I had a client with an ex like that. We were working on all that stuff when he had the good grace to die of some illness.
To be honest, she got better relief that way than I ever could have gotten her.
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January 05, 2018, 02:22 PM
Sig2340You are in the landscaping business, right? Gotta 10hp woodchipper and a pond full of hungry fish nearby?
Pursue it. If he did choke her and assault her, he'll do it again.
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January 05, 2018, 02:42 PM
Krazeehorsequote:
Originally posted by Sig2340:
You are in the landscaping business, right? Gotta 10hp woodchipper and a pond full of hungry fish nearby?
Pursue it. If he did choke her and assault her, he'll do it again.
Maybe to the baby.
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January 05, 2018, 03:22 PM
Jimbo JonesHigh velocity lead poisoning?
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Originally posted by jhe888:
I'd encourage her to pursue the charges. He doesn't sound like the kind to back off. I had a client with an ex like that. We were working on all that stuff when he had the good grace to die of some illness.
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January 05, 2018, 04:49 PM
mark123I ain't gonna hurt the kid for the unfortunate act of dating my step-daughter but that's some funny stuff, guys.
January 05, 2018, 05:34 PM
9mmnutIf he did it once he will do it again. Full court press.
January 05, 2018, 05:38 PM
jljonesHere's the thing. I can remember what state you live in exactly, but if you live in Kentucky here is how the statue is viewed.
Violation of a Kentucky/Foreign EPO/DVO is one of the charges that she doesn't "have" to pursue. It is one of the charges upon probable cause that the local LE or state police goes and finds numbnuts and locks him down. My agency tries to locate numbnuts for a reasonable amount of time to make a probable cause arrest, and if that doesn't pan out the next business day *WE* take out the warrant for him. The victim doesn't do anything because the "victim" is actually the Commonwealth, not the holder of the EPO/DVO.
If you don't live in Kentucky, then check with the locals, but most states work in a similar fashion. EPO/DVO violations are dimly viewed around here, and rack up some pretty good jail time. I would most definitely have her pursue it. If she doesn't he'll likely just keep piling on. If she pursues charges, and he retaliates most states have some form of charges for that.
So yes, pursue it.
January 05, 2018, 05:52 PM
Rob DeckerPursue, pursue, pursue.
Anybody advising you against such course of action is not familiar with the statistics. Such offenders rarely stop until forced to do so by law enforcement or lawful self defense.
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January 05, 2018, 05:55 PM
side_shotanyone rape my daughter i would kill them if i got caught i would gladly do the time
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January 05, 2018, 06:39 PM
mark123quote:
Originally posted by side_shot:
anyone rape my daughter i would kill them if i got caught i would gladly do the time
Well, that escalated quickly.
January 05, 2018, 06:57 PM
KMitch200It already has escalated.
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Long story short, she claimed he restrained her, choked her and generally abused her.
He hasn't stopped pestering her from that day - Yesterday he messed up and sent a message to her with his picture attached to it
The idiot is not getting the message. Let law enforcement deliver the message.
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January 05, 2018, 07:13 PM
Rey HRHMark, I don't see any upside from you trying to help at this point.
I heard that when a lifeguard approaches a drowning person, they wait until they're about done in, not trashing around, etc. They say trying to help those that aren't limp yet can actually hurt both the lifeguard and the person they're trying to save.
It's like you're driving around and you see a bad lawn. Do you stop and immediately work on the lawn to beautify it? I bet you wait until you make sure the owner wants their lawn to be fixed and they actually make an agreement with you to fix it. Otherwise, anything you do at this point will only be used against you in the future.
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January 05, 2018, 07:19 PM
Elk Hunterquote:
Originally posted by Krazeehorse:
quote:
Originally posted by Sig2340:
You are in the landscaping business, right? Gotta 10hp woodchipper and a pond full of hungry fish nearby?
Pursue it. If he did choke her and assault her, he'll do it again.
Maybe to the baby.
Not as far fetched as it might sound. I am personally aware of a young woman whose 12 year old son has to take daily shots to counter damage when his "father" punched his mother in the stomach when she was several months pregnant.
That shit is not as rare as some might think.
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January 05, 2018, 07:24 PM
mark123quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
Mark, I don't see any upside from you trying to help at this point. ...
Oh, I agree. I'm not helping beyond offering the advice to pursue legal action.
January 05, 2018, 07:50 PM
radiomanquote:
Originally posted by mark123:
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Originally posted by Rey HRH:
Mark, I don't see any upside from you trying to help at this point. ...
Oh, I agree. I'm not helping beyond offering the advice to pursue legal action.
I feel for you. Bad situation. I'm sorry to hear this.
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January 05, 2018, 09:01 PM
wolfe 21I'm in the beat his ass like the redheaded stepchild of a gov't mule camp. Maybe see what else you can amputate that he won't want amputated...
Seriously, though. Definitely advise her to pursue it further. Numbnuts needs some time in jail.
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