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Our beloved Bearded Dragon crossed over Wednesday night. He was only 7 and a half years old. He was my son's dragon before he went into the Marines and my wife and I took him as our own when my son left nearly 6 years ago. Despite our best efforts, he developed metabolic bone disease and was somewhat crippled from it. In all other respects, he appeared healthy, and gave every indication of loving to interact with my wife. He'd come over to the side of his enclosure when she came into the room. It would eat out of her hand. It would respond when she talked to it, which was often. And every night she would take it out and hold it until it literally went to sleep. I had no idea one could become attached to a lizard. But we did and my wife took such good care of that thing. On Sunday, though, he started to get lethargic. We have no herp vets in our area. On Monday, he started to go pale and got extremely lethargic. By Tuesday, he had lost nearly all his color and his beard had turned black, an indication he was dying. He hung on until wednesday and died that evening. He now occupies a prominent place in our side yard that is known and our "courtyard," a part of our yard we closed off from the rest of the yard for my wife and my sole use.

Not really looking for advice. But just saying the guilt one feels, and the "what did we do wrong, and what could we have done better?" questions are heavy on our minds. He was just a lizard. But he had personality and we miss him greatly.



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Our beloved Bearded Dragon crossed over Wednesday night. He was only 7 and a half years old. He was my son's dragon before he went into the Marines and my wife and I took him as our own when my son left nearly 6 years ago. Despite our best efforts, he developed metabolic bone disease and was somewhat crippled from it. In all other respects, he appeared healthy, and gave every indication of loving to interact with my wife. He'd come over to the side of his enclosure when she came into the room. It would eat out of her hand. It would respond when she talked to it, which was often. And every night she would take it out and hold it until it literally went to sleep. I had no idea one could become attached to a lizard. But we did and my wife took such good care of that thing. On Sunday, though, he started to get lethargic. We have no herp vets in our area. On Monday, he started to go pale and got extremely lethargic. By Tuesday, he had lost nearly all his color and his beard had turned black, an indication he was dying. He hung on until wednesday and died that evening. He now occupies a prominent place in our side yard that is known and our "courtyard," a part of our yard we closed off from the rest of the yard for my wife and my sole use.

Not really looking for advice. But just saying the guilt one feels, and the "what did we do wrong, and what could we have done better?" questions are heavy on our minds. He was just a lizard. But he had personality and we miss him greatly.



I'm very sorry to hear of this. Condolences.

Not just a lizard though, he was YOUR lizard and I'll be willing to bet you guys meant the world to him.

This is coming from someone that spent over $300 on skin treatments for a $3 pet mouse.

We do the best we can for our pets.

BTW. Very cool looking critter. Dang near as close to a dinosaur as we'll ever see.


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I love lizards. Sorry you lost your pal.

He reminds me of the fence lizards I had when I was young.


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I am sorry to hear this. No matter what kind of creature they are, our pets are important.




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Sorry for your loss. I loss my GSD in 2016 to Leukemia, she was 7. Spent thousands of hours training that animal and bonding. She would kill anything that entered the door. Her bite work was just amazing on the schuthund field. I did 2 blood draws to confirm. The last days are the hardest. She got to where she would not eat at all and could barely move. To see an olympic like athlete go to a 100 year old cripple in weeks was extremely painful to watch. Just take some time. Time is the only thing that will help the wounds. Good luck to you and your family.



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He was a living creature and well deserving of your compassion. You did right by him.
 
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I am truly sorry for your lose.

One would guess that the connection was even stronger because it was your sons.

Please don't beat yourselves up, clearly you all cared for him and treated him well.
 
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We love our pets too. Sorry for your loss. I’m sure he had a good life.
 
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I'm sorry about loosing your pal. I love his smug expression like I am Bearded Dragon Royalty. Smile
 
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Reptiles certainly do possess more intelligence and individual personality that most people recognize or give them credit for. Sounds like you were a good provider for your scaly family member and I seriously doubt you made any errors in attention and treatment you should feel guilty about. A number of years ago I spent thousands of dollars paying for radiation treatment for our Hungarian Puli and it was successful, but I felt the same feelings of loss six years later when he passed away at the ripe old age of 15. We shouldn't confuse grief with guilt when out of loving concern we decide it's time to let them go. Sounds like you and your home were perfect for your dragon and I hope another lucky one will be welcomed into your family soon.


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It's never easy no matter the pet. We lost a 3 month old black lab years ago and it still hurts. She would've been 6.

Just remember you gave him the best life you could and I'm sure he lived a good life.


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My condolences on the loss of your friend Frown

We, too, have had pets depart before their time. It's always hard to lose them, but it's doubly so when they go way before their time.



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I am very sorry for your loss. I kept bearded dragons while I was teaching. I found them to be either extremely durable or very fragile.


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I am very sorry for your loss.

We experienced the tragic ‘sudden death’ of one of our cats a few years ago.

“Fluffy Fluff” (named by my then 3 or 4 year old) was a very playful, athletic, affectionate, funny and very social member of our family and to everyone that came over. I am pretty sure that she thought that she was a human.

My daughter and her friend were playing with FF all day and everything was fine.

At around 6 PM or my son noticed that she had not moved from under the table for a while and she wasn’t napping or sleeping either (not her normal spot to do that). I shook the treat box to see if she would move and nada.

I picked her up to see if I could find or see anything going on, and when I gently put her down on all fours her rear end just flopped over and she could not get up on her own. It was heartbreaking to watch her try to get up or move. Ugh.

I took her immediately to the local emergency vet clinic thinking that she may have ingested a toxin or something, but they diagnosed her with a ‘saddle thrombosis’, the prognosis of which is very bad for a cat and probably any other household pet.

A call to my cousin who is a specialized surgical vet confirmed what the clinic told us.

I called the family (wife and two children) to drive over to be with Fluffy Fluff one last time and say good-bye to her.

And just like that, two or three hours later she was gone. So sad.

We spent the next two weeks or so celebrating her life by recalling all of the fun we had with her and looking at photos and video’s.

Dang, I really miss that Fluffy Fluff.

A very strange thing about the whole terrible day, was when my daughter and her friend were playing ‘monkey in the middle’ with FF and having so much fun, her friend innocently (of course) said “Oh my goodness, what would you do it Fluffy Fluff died? We would not be able to have this much fun!”

Anyhoo, remember the great and fun times that you had with your your special family member and try not to feel guilty about what happened. You made a great and comfortable life for him he probably had a lot of fun too.


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I am very sorry for your loss.

We experienced the tragic ‘sudden death’ of one of our cats a few years ago.

“Fluffy Fluff” (named by my then 3 or 4 year old) was a very playful, athletic, affectionate, funny and very social member of our family and to everyone that came over. I am pretty sure that she thought that she was a human.

My daughter and her friend were playing with FF all day and everything was fine.

At around 6 PM or my son noticed that she had not moved from under the table for a while and she wasn’t napping or sleeping either (not her normal spot to do that). I shook the treat box to see if she would move and nada.

I picked her up to see if I could find or see anything going on, and when I gently put her down on all fours her rear end just flopped over and she could not get up on her own. It was heartbreaking to watch her try to get up or move. Ugh.

I took her immediately to the local emergency vet clinic thinking that she may have ingested a toxin or something, but they diagnosed her with a ‘saddle thrombosis’, the prognosis of which is very bad for a cat and probably any other household pet.

A call to my cousin who is a specialized surgical vet confirmed what the clinic told us.

I called the family (wife and two children) to drive over to be with Fluffy Fluff one last time and say good-bye to her.

And just like that, two or three hours later she was gone. So sad.

We spent the next two weeks or so celebrating her life by recalling all of the fun we had with her and looking at photos and video’s.

Dang, I really miss that Fluffy Fluff.

A very strange thing about the whole terrible day, was when my daughter and her friend were playing ‘monkey in the middle’ with FF and having so much fun, her friend innocently (of course) said “Oh my goodness, what would you do it Fluffy Fluff died? We would not be able to have this much fun!”

Anyhoo, remember the great and fun times that you had with your your special family member and try not to feel guilty about what happened. You made a great and comfortable life for him he probably had a lot of fun too.


Cookster. Just wanted to take a moment and thank you for sharing your story.

Couple of years ago I was sitting on the couch having a few drinks when I heard this low sorrowful wailing over by the window. I look over and there is old Basement Cat dragging himself across the carpet with his front legs . Rear legs no longer worked. We took him to the emergency vet where they suggested he needed to be put down to end his suffering.

They never did tell us what had happened (I don't think they even knew) and we were left wondering what the hell? Saddle thrombosis makes sense.

My significant other is disabled and home by herself during the day. Basement was her best friend and companion. She was out of sorts for a very long time.....until we found Chance the feral kitten, a tiny clone of good old Basement cat. Life is funny how it works sometimes.


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I’m sorry for your loss. These little guys are so cool, and so curious. They remind me of my parrots, watching and learning.
What if’s just aren’t helpful at this point, but I know what you mean.
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I am sorry for the loss of your unusual pet. So far I've had 2 cats die and it is difficult to handle. My prayers for you and your family.

highroundcount, I can go you one better. Some years back I paid more than $4000 to fix the broken leg on a feral cat who eats in my back yard. Mollie is not a pet, but I gave her a name, she has been "fixed", and will let me pet her a little (and she purrs). It was a lot of money, but she's a little sweetie and I was happy I had the ability to make her well.

I have had a number of feral cats feeding in my yard, two of which were mothers of my several indoor cat pets--they have both passed, now, and had been fixed years before their deaths. Mollie is my only regular visitor right now, but I've seen a couple of others once or twice. (I also get visitations by raccoons and opossums.)

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highroundcount,

I am glad that our story helped to shed some light on what very likely happed to Basement Cat.

And you are right about how things work out, because we wound up adopting a brother / sister pair of kitteh’s to keep FF’s brother (Black Diamond) and us company. Iris and Lace are quite the duo, and BD eventually took a liking to them once he overcame being a little afraid of the ‘ferocious’ little balls of fur that they were! LOL!!


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Sorry for your loss. It is hard, no matter what kind of critter if you have a connection.

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Losing furkids, even the ones with no fur or have feathers is never easy. Sorry for your loss


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