No

Not my thing…

Yes, regularly, online. I look at three areas of the country. The area where I started elementary school, the area where I was a police officer and the area where I've lived for some 46 years now.

I am amazed at how many folks I knew in the obits. I simply skim the names, and if I recognize a name, I read the entire obit.


Bob

The only obits I care to read were the ones of SF members when they passed. We don't do obits for immediate family members.

Nope.

My mother (78) reads them daily and has been for my adult life.

Yes, I got in the habit when I was Secretary for a Masonic Lodge for 20 years and continue to look at them to this day.

No need to. Almost all of my friends are dead.
It's my own fault; I'm so darned old...
But I will carry on, and try to shoot when my ole bod will allow.
The fat lady hasn't sung yet, and no hurry.

Yes, I read them online for the cities I have lived in over the years. Now and then I see people I knew, including an ex from the late '70s, early '80s. It not good to dwell on the past, but I do it anyway.

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Originally posted by CPD SIG:
Yes!
I want to see if Im in there.

Roger that.....

I check Legacy.com every few months or so. It's how I keep track of family.

Unfortunately, my mother's maiden name was very common, so I don't bother, don't know if any of them are still alive or not.

Never.

We have lived in a couple of nice cities over the last 35 years. We have cultivated a bunch of friendships over those years. We like to see which friends have moved on.

Everyday. I read them online as they are the only thing of worth in the worthless rag called a newspaper.

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Originally posted by V-Tail:
Every morning, in bed. If my name is in there, I won't have to get up.

I get that Vtail,

I read them to see if it might bring a smile to my face.

quote:

Originally posted by V-Tail:
Every morning, in bed. If my name is in there, I won't have to get up.

I was about to type that, V-Tail. Good one!


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Originally posted by 92fstech:
No. If I'm close enough to you that it matters, I'll know when you're dead. I won't need to read about it in the paper.

Exactly this.



My mother used to be the worst about this.

She'd pore over the obituaries, frequently letting out a plaintively cry of "Oh no! Oh, that's so sad!" when she recognized someone, and then explain that that the stepfather of her college roommate's husband that she met briefly this one time back in 1970-whatever had apparently passed away. Or the wife of her former boss from three jobs ago that she hasn't spoken to since she left a couple decades back. Or similar.

Their passing had absolutely zero impact on her life, but was a great tragedy nonetheless.

(Celebrity deaths were an even bigger deal to her. )

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Originally posted by RogueJSK:

quote:

Originally posted by 92fstech:
No. If I'm close enough to you that it matters, I'll know when you're dead. I won't need to read about it in the paper.

Exactly this.



My mother used to be the worst about this.

She'd pore over the obituaries, frequently letting out a plaintively cry of "Oh no! Oh, that's so sad!" when she recognized someone, and then explain that that the stepfather of her college roommate's husband that she met briefly this one time back in 1970-whatever had apparently passed away. Or the wife of her former boss from three jobs ago that she hasn't spoken to since she left a couple decades back. Or similar.

Their passing had absolutely zero impact on her life, but was a great tragedy nonetheless.

(Celebrity deaths were an even bigger deal to her. )

My parents are pretty bad about that, too. Maybe it's an old people thing (but they're only 65 and 70). Every time I talk to my mom she gives me a list of everybody who's died in the past month, most of whom I don't even know. To be fair my dad is a pastor, so they're often directly involved. It seems like every time we go out there to visit he gets called about how so and so just died and they need him to do the funeral.

Maybe it's my job, or my religious beliefs, but I kind of have a more matter-of-fact perspective on it than most people. I've worked enough dead bodies to be well aware that the part of us that you see here is just a fleshy meat sack that will decompose in a few days if the blood stops pumping. And my beliefs as a Christian give me confidence about what's going to happen afterwards, so it's not really the catastrophe in my mind that society makes it out to be. I've still got stuff to do here so I'm in no hurry to go, but when my time comes so be it.

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Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL:
[quote]I'd rather remember people how they were in life than have my last memory be their dolled up cadaver. When I die, I hope they incinerate my corpse and have a party.
 
If you truly feel that way decide which funeral home you want and have a chat. If you want you pay for a life insurance policy in their name and have YOUR wishes are carried out. Otherwise it is up to your survivors to decide. Even a cardboard box cremation is expensive.

It's called Pre-Need, some variations on that basically you can pre-plan your funeral, from direct cremation to full on services.

You can fund it with insurance, there are plenty of pre-need insurance companies with burial plans.

If that's what you want, direct cremation by all means find a place that handles it, it doesn't have to be a funeral home there are direct cremation companies that will do it, you can pre-pay as well. We did this with my mother and had a life remembrance service a few months after, my fathers is prepaid with the same company and I have the papers.

Otherwise like ZM said, it's what the survivors decide if you don't have it planed out in advance.

Regarding the obits, no don't read them, but my dad who is 87 does, mainly to see who passed away in another city where he lived for many years.

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Originally posted by straightshooter1:
Yes, regularly, online. I look at three areas of the country. The area where I started elementary school, the area where I was a police officer and the area where I've lived for some 46 years now.

I am amazed at how many folks I knew in the obits. I simply skim the names, and if I recognize a name, I read the entire obit.


Bob

Same here.

Nope. Haven’t taken the local paper in decades. There’s a copy at work but I’m not spending any time flipping through to see that nobody I know died.