I'd just been going about my day when I remembered. Previous years it'd been hanging over me for a week or more each time. I guess this means I'm finally accepting the reality of it. Still hit me like a gut punch. Check up on your loved ones today. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking there's always time. It had been a couple weeks since I'd seen my dad and I kept thinking I'd call tomorrow. Tomorrow was too late.

Thanks for the reminder. My dad is right across the street and I haven't visited for about a week.

He's been in poor health and I try to not think of his time being shirt.

Thanks Leemur. I chose to delay a visit to my parents on Sunday for no other reason than laziness. I lost focus on priorities...
Sorry about your dad, brother.

I hear ya Leemur. My condolences. My Dad is gone 13 yrs now. It feels like just yesterday, and yet a lifetime ago as well. I guess it gets easier, I don't cry at his grave site much any longer. Sometimes I feel bad about that.

Be thankful for the good memories, we just passed the one year anniversary of my Dad's passing. The previous years we visited up to twice a week, due to his Alzheimer's, even with that affliction, we were able to enjoy those visits and cherish our time together.

Condolences Leemur.
It has been two years since my Dad passed away and one year since my Mom passed away.
You get through it - not over it..........

PC

Lost mine 6 years ago, my mentor in the plumbing business, and I thank him for that! But there are days that I would love to ask his advice.

I lost both my Mom and Dad in 2007. They were both in their mid 90's. Dad went first in January, and my Mom in December. The hurt wanes as time goes by, but never completely leaves you.

Condolences.

I know the feeling.
My dad died waiting for me at an airport back in 1975 when I was 20.

I still miss him daily.

My condolences. My Father died when I was 17. I still miss him every day, and I am 55.

I am blessed to have a wonderful Step-Father who turns 90 in March.

If your parents are still alive, tell them you love them. There will come a day when you cannot.

It's tough and you have my sympathy. My Dad passed in 2005 and my Mom in 2006.
My Dad left when I was 2 and I didn't find him until I was quite a bit older. Still hurts sometimes.

I feel your pain. 2 yrs ago today. Best wishes.

Indeed, we should take care of our parents, I was very, very lucky, I passed out 3 weeks ago from a abnormally low heart beat. Rescue crews told me that my heart stopped in the ambulance and once again while I was on the table getting a pacemaker.

My kids are both calling me every day to check on me, I got a second chance at life and they and I intend to enjoy every minute. Please keep up with your loved ones it means a lot to them!!

You have my sympathies. Thursday will mark 18 years my dad has been gone. He was barely 46 and I had just turned 22. He went very suddenly and unexpectedly. I think of him on some level every day. I sure am grateful for those 22 years. I had a wonderful father and a ton of good memories. There are certain times of the year though, like now, deer season, and the week of the Oshkosh air show that bring back powerful memories, and with it, pain.
Shortly after the death of my dad I was talking to a friend who was in his upper 80's. His father had been a railroad man, and he told me that to that very day he could not hear a train whistle in the distance without feeling a small twinge for his father. Some hurts never fully go away, but I don't know that it is all together a bad thing.

I called my dad today. We talked for an hour. I invited him to one of his favorite activities.....the train show. He loves that show. We wander around and he tells me about his train experiences growing up. We look at functioning scenery boards people have made and he critiques them for realism etc. After a couple of hours we go have lunch. He's getting on in years so I try to spend as much time as I can. Leemur's post made me realize I don't have time to be lazy anymore.

Lost my dad in 1982. Every time I look down and see a coin laying on the ground, I pick it up and thank him for the "gift".

It is 2 years next week, still think about him daily.

I'm with you, Leemur - I'm coming up on 5 years as well in May. I really miss my dad and being able to share both the little things and the big ones too. Like PCWyoming said above, we'll get through this but never over it.

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Originally posted by Leemur:
I'd just been going about my day when I remembered. Previous years it'd been hanging over me for a week or more each time. I guess this means I'm finally accepting the reality of it. Still hit me like a gut punch. Check up on your loved ones today. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of thinking there's always time. It had been a couple weeks since I'd seen my dad and I kept thinking I'd call tomorrow. Tomorrow was too late.

I lost my dad when I was young. I was 27 and he was 56. BUT, the worst of it was it happened on 4th of July (after 3 months of pain and suffering). It took me a good while to get ok with it.....7-8 years. Prior to that it would wear on me for a good week, every single year.

It's been almost 20 years for me. He was 15 minutes away and very young. Tomorrow can definitely be to late. I'm still mad at myself for not stopping by or calling more often. Make you you make the time.