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So my wife bought me a Dewalt 20v brushless drill impact driver set. (I can see the bank statement and money spent and where, so I know what I’m getting). Kinda sucks as she was really trying to surprise me. She’s hoping I remodel the closet.
So I’m getting a great drill and driver. I already have a great impact driver that was gifted to me when my friend was in the exact same situation.
I was super happy to get an impact driver, battery, and charger. That said, I’m passing this along. Note, the used one is in 80% new condition.
I’m 98% certain that the batteries don’t give a shit which charger they’re on. I think either charger will charge either battery.

So as the poll asks, would you gift the new one, or the used one?

It’ll be gifted to my pops (father). He will use it a fair amount.

Question:
Would you gift the old impact driver or the new one?

Choices:
Gift the new one and keep the old?
Gift the old one and keep the new?

 



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It depends. If this is just a random gift for no occasion, I would give him the use one with the explanation that you are no longer using it so you thought it should go to someone who would use it.

If this is for an occasion, like Christmas or a birthday, I would not give the used one.


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Don't rain on your wifes' parade. Pass the old one along. As soon as you get the new tools, start measuring in the closet. Smile
 
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I'm going to +1 RichN on this, especially since its staying in the family.

This happens a lot in my extended circle of close friends and family. Goes something like "Hey - do you have a cordless impact driver? No? Well, you do now... enjoy!"
That said, I would wait until New Years to pass it down.




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I don't see a problem giving someone a used tool as long as it is presented as a kind gesture. Not as a "gift".

OTOH: Unless you live in a small apartment and are within 10 steps of your tool box at all times, a second driver can be very handy. One in the basement, one in the shop. Set up with different size bits while working on a project, etc.
 
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I agree that keeping two might be useful.

If it's a gift I would only give a new one.

As a tool pass along the used would be fine.

I wish someone has given me one before I broke down and bought one.
 
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What previous posters said. Give it to him separate from the holidays or give him your new one.

On a bright note you may still be surprised. I got a new hammer drill/impact set yesterday that comes with two 'free' toools. A circular saw and grinder as well.

Now I face the exact same situation. What to do with old ones. The hammer drill's chuck is bent slightly and the impact is near New condition. Do I sell them? Replace Chuck and keep as spares? Give them to friend?



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This happens frequently in our family and circle of friends. Just about every household is now equipped to their skill level. We have also formed a lending library of sorts among the group for the less often needed equipment.


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Being that its for your Dad why not give him the new one especially since you know he will use it a fair amount. But if your Dad is like me he will appreciate either one coming from his son. Merry Christmas.
 
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Well, as to myself. I would be happy to receive that as a gift, Christmas or not.

A few years ago, my friends mom gave me some deck furniture for Christmas. They were about 2 or 3 years old. My friends mom got a new set of deck furniture and knew that I could use them. She cleaned them up. Wrapped then in what could be described as Christmas print trash bags and had them in the garage, with a tiny little Christmas tree, litup (I shit you not).

After Christmas dinner and present opening, she (friends mom) said, "I have a surprise for you, come to the garage to see it".

I was really surprised! Looked like new. Still have them, for the last 5 years.

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It's your dad, just give one of them to him in good health and signed by a hug. No need to wrap it up under the pretense of it being a "gift" IMNSHO.



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Return the new one. Tell the wife it doesn’t make sense. Or casually mention how the one you have is sufficient before Christmas and she may return it.

I would not gift a used item unless it’s an open conversation like “hey I got a new drill would you like my old one”. Don’t wrap a used item and expect it to be a good gift.




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How will your wife interpret you getting a gift from her and immediately giving it away?



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Do not give her gift away!

Give pops your old one as a pass down fully explaining that your great wife just gave you a new set so you are sure he could use your old one.

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If by gift you mean wrap it and put it under the Christmas tree - no. Keep the new one and give, not gift, the used one to your dad. If the two sets are equivalent, or the new one better, you can't give away the set your wife gave you for Christmas. If you didn't know that, you do now.

If there is some attachment or other tool (impact sockets, drill driver set, complete drill bit set) that dad doesn't have but could use with the used set you give him, I would buy that as the gift.

Now if your existing set was a high quality Snap On/Milwaukee/Dewalt/etc and the new one your wife bought was a cheesy harbor freight POS (I know it says she bought a Dewalt) it would be acceptable to tell her you have a set and you will return it and get some other tool attachment you need (to remodel the closet.) But this means dad it out (you still can't give away the present your wife bought you.) If you want dad to have a drill/driver set, buy him one for Christmas.

You poll does no have an keep X and give Y - so I selected gift the old.




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Unless you ditched the previous wife and got you a new model since the discussion about the "Christmas Gift Exchange", gifting her gift to you to your dad is going to be like banging your thumb with a hammer, several times, repeatedly, over and over, and then some.

The woman has a thing for "gifts and sentiments", and likely has the memory of an elephant, and we've all seen the guys at the wrong end of the trunk or foot of an elephant done wrong.

Go get dad a new "hisown" gift.

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I am thinking like the others, keep the new and give the old. Not sure I would give it as a gift but would just give it to him.
 
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I would not give away or gift to somebody else a gift my wife just got for me. Several years down the road, maybe. If I wasn't using it. But right away? No way, no how.



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So view it from the other direction. How would you feel about getting a used Hi-Point? About getting a used P210 (70s vintage?) Its kind of about the gift itself.

All the comments about the wife are correct. More about how she will feel about it than how the receiver will feel. Most of my best and loved guns are used (as in preowned). I wasn't even alive when they went to their first owner.


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I would not give away or gift to somebody else a gift my wife just got for me. Several years down the road, maybe. If I wasn't using it. But right away? No way, no how.


THIS, you have to keep the new one your wife got you. I wouldn't gift the second one but GIVE the second one to him. Meaning, I'd call him up and say "Hey, my wife just bought me a new impact driver/drill and I have a really nice one already, but have no use for it, do you have a use for it...…"
 
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