So I have two people outside of family and my gf that I consider close friends. We all know the type you can say anything to and call any hour. Well my friend Ang just got the shaft in life hard this past week. A little back story first about her. She's the type to always listen and try to help. A single mom who decided to keep her child after being raped instead of abort, lives with a fucked up hip thats had her on oxy (prescribed and doesnt abuse) for almost 4 years, runs her own horse lesson business and a side business on etsy making custom wedding invations and the like. Basically refuses to live off the government even though most weeks is pay check to pay check. So well start with the least worst thing this week for her that happened second.
I get a call saying she is leaving our neighboring county's booking center. She got a dui. Not the end of the world but it was the piling on. Her light was green, went and got hit. Long story short, she gets hit with a dui since she popped an oxy after hitting her head in the accident and fucking her hip up more. Only probably cause was the cop seeing the bottle and her saying she did. So using up my favors to the local dui attorney that has a great track record of winning. She'd be a great choice for ard (no priors in anything), but it costs a ton and if she said she wasn't impaired at the time then I believe her (she didn't know that I know the attorneys I do and wasnt asking for help, was only venting when she told ke it).
The big one. She got diagnosed with breast and cervical cancer two days before the dui. Not much else I can say other than that.
I rarely show emotion, don't cry, tend to be cynical in just about everything, but hell if it isn't hard to actually keep it together and be my normal abrasive self around her. Thats the reason we always got along so well but would never think about dating. Even my gf asked one time when hanging out when all of us were there. We looked at her and basically said that'd be like fucking your sister. She's about as awful as human being as me and even when she was raped I think I said, well I had to wake up early today so yea I didnt have a good day either but do you hear me whining. Thats what got her to laugh. Just the normalcy, but this go around is just worse.
I know I'm rambling. Just a hell of a hand she got dealt at once, and wanted to give some back story to one of the few I've always considered a friend.
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I know it sounds dark and heartless, but the best way I can say it is, she got her 3 minutes of sympathy from me to know that I care. Then it was on to cancer jokes. She reminded me I've been calling her a cancer on society for years. Just our dark sense of humor and probably the only way I'll get her to laugh.
Doctors appointment next week again to find out more.
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I am sorry for your friend, and for you. Prayers sent.
My sister was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer when she was 40. Very aggressive - the cancer had spread to the brain. She got a good local doctor who she trusts. She has been doing well for two years now- better than I thought she could, and I am a physician.
I share my sister's story only so you/your friend don't give up hope. It a terrifying time, but there will be good moments with the tears and fears.
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