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Cancel/suspend or freeze all the joint accounts, make sure she can't draw on home equity, life insurance policies, etc..

And don't forget to close out ALL credit card accounts. Open accounts (one card) in your name only.

My guess it she's getting tons of advice from her female friends, many who are divorced.

Haven't talked with him in years, but, if you can make it to Fairfax, Marc Astore is your guy. Geezus, he's a pit bull. He was a close personal friend, when I lived there, and even I got scared when I read a letter he wrote to the lawyer of my then-GF's ex, who wouldn't sign the papers to finalize their divorce that had been languishing for years. This is not the time to play nice. Once the divorce card comes out, it's trench warfare.

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Originally posted by Nciswit:
Hello all,
Been a tough few months, wife wants divorce but I really thought we could work things out. No one did anything; she just claims she is no longer in love, but wants to be friends

If there's one thing I've learned about women, it's that, if they break up with you, they want to be friends. If you break up with them, they want you dead .

That’s the thing, she is a complete terror one minute then try’s to be nice the next. I ended up in hospital (prior heart issues) while on work trip to CA last week and she was called by work and showed up to “help” telling everyone that we are divorcing but are still best friends!? Then the next day while I’m hooked up to everything telling me what I’m goig to pay her. I’m at a loss, but I can’t thank everyone here enough. I always knew we were a tight bunch but now I see it. All the help is keeping me from losing my mind.

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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:

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Originally posted by jhe888:
This is so not true. I handle dozens of divorces a year, and women and men leave in about equal numbers, and whether or not there is a new love interest is not different by gender. Some (both men and women) leave when they find new love, and some leave for other reasons.

Just because it doesn't come up in the proceedings, doesn't mean it's not happening behind the scenes.

If it is happening, it comes up. I know, believe me.

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Originally posted by GWbiker:

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Cancel/suspend or freeze all the joint accounts, make sure she can't draw on home equity, life insurance policies, etc..

And don't forget to close out ALL credit card accounts. Open accounts (one card) in your name only.

My guess it she's getting tons of advice from her female friends, many who are divorced.

And like the advice in this thread, much of it is bad.

Don’t know why closing accounts BEFORE anyone files is ‘bad advice’? Not long ago I worked with a guy who ended up paying off a card where the EX and her new boyfriend had paid for a trip with, mostly.

I’d be cancelling EVERYTHING thing possible, before accounts are locked.

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Originally posted by sourdough44:

Don’t know why closing accounts BEFORE anyone files is ‘bad advice’?

You might have misread the post immediately before yours. I'll quote it here, with some parts edited out, that should clarify the picture:

Originally posted by GWbiker: "My guess it she's getting tons of advice from her female friends, many who are divorced."

jhe888's comment: "And like the advice in this thread, much of it is bad."