Can somebody please explain this to me. What in the fuck drives people to blame others for mistakes. “Mishaps are everybody’s fault but mine”!
I spent 17 years in a truck by myself and now that I have to work with others directly, I can not believe that so many grown men can not work through simple problems. Resorting to fits or passive aggressive behavior as a retaliation.
Is this really common or do I just work with a bunch of assholes?

No, it's pretty common. Ego can be a powerful drug.

Wondering if this trait limited to men...

This was my signature line at various times:

“Most men … can seldom accept the simplest and most obvious truth if it … would oblige them to admit the falsity of conclusions … which they have woven, thread by thread, into the fabrics of their lives.” — Leo Tolstoy

It is basic human nature except for the most intelligent and introspective. And then only occasionally.

(And time was when “men” referred to all human beings, not just to those of the male sex. I am old enough to still interpret the term that way when appropriate.)

My signature line is a fitting explanation, "ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity"

^^^^^
No truer words have been spoken.

This is not a gender specific trait. It is a learned behavior in childhood.

I'm sure that if I am ever wrong, I'll be man enough to admit it.

I was wrong. Once.

Glad I don't have to worry about this one.

I thought I was wrong once, but it turns out I was wrong.

Why in the world are you limiting this to men? I'd wager the percentage of women who won't admit they are wrong is higher than that of men.

Think about it. Despite everything that's been done to our society to convince women that they are the equal of or perhaps even the betters of men, a substantial portion of the female population feel like second-class citizens. The reason for this is simple- they've forgotten that men and women have different drives and capabilities. Men are the hunter-gatherers, women are the nesters, staying home, taking care of the children. That is the way it's been since before recorded history, but now, many women want to be men, and this little blip we're experiencing right now, in which women see themselves as taking over the world, will disappear like smoke the instant there is a true global crisis- another world war, for instance. In such an instance, who will do the fighting and all the heavy lifting? Men, as it's always been.

If my comments offend anyone- tough shit. We are in the predicament we are in right now partly because of everyone falling all over themselves to make women just like men, and that is something which can never truly be.

I’m sure it’s because the rant is specific to his situation, his coworkers, which are men. He probably wasn’t being philosophical about the human condition. Just my guess.

For some reason, this video popped up as a Youtube suggestion this morning so I figured I'd watch. Then I saw this thread and thought that it might be a good place to put it.

It's well worth a few minutes of your time, and the comments section is hilarious. Apparently Jocko is the new Chuck Norris.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ljqra3BcqWM

Sigcrazy7 is correct. Para, I only work with men in my facility. It seems that egotistical whining men are in a higher concentration at my job than any other group I’ve ever encountered. It really is pathetic.

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Originally posted by parabellum:
Why in the world are you limiting this to men? I'd wager the percentage of women who won't admit they are wrong is higher than that of men.

In my experience, men tend to be more stubborn. They won't admit they're wrong, minimalize how wrong they were, &/or deflect blame to others.

Women are more likely to reframe a situation so that the person who held them accountable for being wrong becomes the bad guy. E.g.:

"Yes, she was wrong, but you don't have to rub it in."
"You don't have empathy."
"You're mansplaining."
"You're an asshole for hurting her feelings."

Now there is such thing as gloating and 'rubbing it in', but many women interpret holding them accountable for their errors at all to be gloating.

I said something bad. Deleted. Sorry.

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Oh, Jesus

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Originally posted by konata88:
I’ve come to attribute that behavior with democrats. People who think like democrats have no sense of accountability. Not saying there is a causal or exclusive relationship. But a correlation.

Here's someone who needs to admit that they're wrong....

It’s not just men.

You just described my stepmother. She is NEVER wrong and will never apologize for anything. It’s like she’s not even capable of ever admitting she was wrong on anything. It’s always everyone else who is wrong.

I don’t get it but she’s 77 and never going to change.