Again is the key word.

Been married twice. Decided after 15 years I was not going to spend the rest of my life miserable.

Married to the Goat Goddess for 32 years this September. Went into it saying we were going to work on having a GREAT marriage every day. And we have.

FenderBender, I hope life improves after this. But if you are looking for advice, I'd not venture into another marriage twer I you.

My good friend is a divorce lawyer. He tells me that divorce can be quite expensive, but usually worth it.

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...41% of first marriages end in divorce. 60% of second marriages end in divorce and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.

I will not be seeking to discover what the percentage is for fourth, as I have no desire to love my van!

Motivationally, speaking...

(...... I am thrice divorced, and I live in a van DOWN BY THE RIVER!!!)

Once was enough for me. I still have nightmares.

Sorry to hear about that FB

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Originally posted by 71 TRUCK:
I had a friend in my Fire Department who was married three times.

I had a coworker who had been married 7x with 3 of them to the same woman . I switched divisions so haven't seen him in a couple years so he could be on #8 or more by now. Not sure he'll ever be able to retire.

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Originally posted by sigmonkey:

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...41% of first marriages end in divorce. 60% of second marriages end in divorce and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.

I will not be seeking to discover what the percentage is for fourth, as I have no desire to love my van!

Motivationally, speaking...

(...... I am thrice divorced, and I live in a van DOWN BY THE RIVER!!!)

As this was my Exes 4th(I was hopeful, she is intelligent she might have learned something by it...) I suspect even higher.

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Originally posted by FenderBender:

this was my Exes 4th

Aha! A clue that even Inspector Clouseau could find.

Good friend of ours were married twice.
To each other.....

Yeah, second time worked out exactly how you'd expect!

After my brother's first two marriages failed after only a few years, he and his new fiance stayed engaged for 17 years (and lived together) before finally tying the knot.

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Originally posted by V-Tail:

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Originally posted by FenderBender:

this was my Exes 4th

Aha! A clue that even Inspector Clouseau could find.

Don't forget the 2nd part of my reasoning, which admittedly did turn out to be faulty.

1st - 8 Years, left me for a coworker.
2nd - 11 years, raised her 2 sons, left me for somone with more money when her youngest when off to college.
3rd - 27 years, she was 47, 7 years my junior & had never been married, we are still together

1st - 6 years. She just decided to get out.
2nd - 3 years. She liked my lawyer better. Her loss.
3rd - 29.5 years, will be 30 in October. Still kicking

Once divorced, twice married for me.

The first was an outstanding college girlfriend. But she turned out not to be a loyal spouse in any sense of the word.

I've been married 6 years now to the second wife. She was married at 21, and had a good marriage until her husband died suddenly about 10 years ago.

I got lucky this time around.

Sorry to hear Fender.

My first and only lasted 25 years. Tried everything to make it work, but in the end she was not willing and you can't force it.

Had a couple of relationships since and it has been very helpful and healing.

Best of luck in your future love life.

Cheers~

For better or worse my Mom has been married FOUR TIMES!

In her defense they had all passed. When the last one passed away she was in her mid 80’s and all of us children told her that was enough. She’s been on her own for about 10 years now and she’s pretty happy.

The four of her kids are all still married to our first spouse anywhere from 30 to almost 50 years.

I've been married just once. I'm my wife's second. Monday is our thirtieth anniversary. People actually told us it wouldn't last. Joke's on them, we're too old to call it quits now.

Oh brother, I know…

First one was doomed from before it started. But it produced my two wonderful kids. Well…one of the kids produced the marriage that produced the second kid lol. That one absolutely wiped me out though financially. She ended up hooked on pills later and I got full custody of our kids.

Second one started well enough. But a few years in I found out about hidden debt, and her answer was to hide in the bottle that was her family’s curse. Thankfully that one ended very well and very fair, once she got sober. And very quietly with zero drama. We now get along perfectly as divorcees and she remains very involved with my daughter, as the actual mother from marriage #1 is not involved.

I’m 42 and don’t really plan on a round 3. I have a girlfriend (and she’s really wonderful) but she understands my focus is on getting my kids (18 and 15) raised and into life. Somehow they aren’t completely screwed mentally from everything I just described and are actually thriving.

Once that is done I’ll see where I am, but I’m perfectly content ending up living in the woods alone between retirement adventures at this point. My record isn’t very good lol

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Originally posted by chongosuerte:
My record isn’t very good lol

I know a great lady who told her sons (one divorced once, one divorced twice), "You boys aren't good at this!"

married 17 years and divorced. two kids with her. both grown now.
13 years after divorce she wants to get back together. gtfoh!

My ex mentioned getting married again early on. I had already given her 5 years to think things over.

No way I’d do that.