A very enlightening thread. One of the observations here that I certainly agree with is irreverant's post - "Giving up your independence is hard. Especially if you’re proud, and you’ve managed alone your whole life. Show some grace to those folks. It’s really hard to come to terms with."
Unless dementia is involved, as someone grows older, if they revert to infancy, depending upon others for things they can do themselves, that's a serious character flaw. That character flaw would have been evident prior to becoming elderly. My observation has been that mean, selfish, or lazy people may temper these character flaws somewhat (although you can still see it), but with age the guard rails come off and those aspects of their character are easy to see.
As I grow older I do have limitations that I didn't have before. I am very blessed because I have family who step in to help. Although I try to limit the help only to things that I genuinely need help with.
Case in point:
88 y.o. Neighbor Charlene refuses to use her cane,.
Refused to wear a call button.
Can't learn the cell phone,
Has one eye,
35% hearing loss.
Liver failed last year.
Well I found her this morning on the floor half way out of her apt.
Had been there since 10:00 last night
Didn't want to disturb her 94 y.o., 82 y.o.and 65 y.o. neighbors.
Called the ambulance.
Safety, Situational Awareness and proficiency.
Neck Ties, Hats and ammo brass, Never ,ever touch'em w/o asking first
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Went through it with both my parents who lived to be 88 and 90 (they died within 18 months of each other 5 years ago). Up until the last 3 years they were in their own home (65 years). I will add that my siblings and I were in denial about both our parents staying/living safely in their own home - we let them stay too long and it's a miracle some of the things that happened in that period were not more serious. As we struggled through our parents decline I found myself frustrated and on rare occasion I would get cross with them. To this day I still feel immense guilt about it. I am now 57. When I am in my declining years I hope my kids are more compassionate and patient than I was with my parents.
You can't fall off the floor.
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