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Too clever by half |
I agree. It's a trite expression, but true I think that we tend to regret the things we don't do more than the things we do. If you stand up, respectfully suggest you'd like to say a few things about you father, who's really going to stop you? Only someone prepared to make themselves look petty. "We have a system that increasingly taxes work, and increasingly subsidizes non-work" - Milton Friedman | |||
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chickenshit |
Ronin, I think your plan is an excellent one. I will raise a glass in your father's honor tonight and on whatever day you carry out your plan if you post when that will be. ____________________________ Yes, Para does appreciate humor. | |||
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His Royal Hiney |
I don't get the no eulogy rule. You're the son. Have you confirmed with the pastor? Maybe talk to the pastor and tell him your intent to speak. Ask how much time he'll give you and when in the service. I think he'll understand. It might be just the step-mother controlling it. And if he doesn't cooperate, as others said, you might just step up and say, "Excuse me folks, I just need to get this off my chest to say goodbye to my father..." I mean funerals are really for the living - to bring closure for them, to say goodbye. "It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual." Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, 1946. | |||
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I'd imagine the clergy that institute the rule have run into one or more situations where it either rambled on far too long or took the service in a direction they found disruptive. I guess when you ask them to officiate, you are agreeing to follow their protocol. | |||
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I like you. | |||
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| His Royal Hiney |
Here's what I know: The clergy is providing a service whether paid or not. I think in most cases, there's a fee involved. I paide for the clery in both of my parent's funerals. It was arranged by the funeral home. I don't remember what happened in my father's as that was a long time ago but I did speak during the service. I don't remember whether I was asked or I told them. In my mother's which was early January of this year, I talked with the priest before the service that I have a eulogy prepared and when can I expect to speak. He also asked me if I wanted rosary to be said, I said no. Any clergy providing a funeral service should be able to accommodate family saying eulogies unless it's a religion-wide prohibition and not just dependent on the particular clergy. I'm not trying to be funny but it's the analogy I thought of at the moment. When I'm getting a massage, I have the right to have the masseuse accommodate my request of lighter or stronger pressure and where. The masseuse is providing me a service to make me feel good, in the same way, the clergy at a funeral is to provide a servcie that makes the living feel good. "It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life – daily and hourly. Our answer must consist not in talk and meditation, but in right action and in right conduct. Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual." Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning, 1946. | |||
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Semper Fi - 1775 |
Bump for final update in OP ___________________________ All it takes...is all you got. ____________________________ For those who have fought for it, Freedom has a flavor the protected will never know ΜΟΛΩΝ ΛΑΒΕ | |||
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אַרְיֵה |
A truly loving farewell. הרחפת שלי מלאה בצלופחים | |||
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Good job, Ronin. "I don't shoot well, but I shoot often." - Pres. T. Roosevelt | |||
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| Staring back from the abyss  |
I'm not ashamed to say that that eulogy brought a tear to my eye. I envy those of you who had good fathers. ________________________________________________________ "Great danger lies in the notion that we can reason with evil." Doug Patton. | |||
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A Grateful American |
Thank you for sharing your dad's memory with us. He raised a fine son indeed, and one whom I am sure, made him proud many times over. May God bless and keep those memories strong in you, and may your dad s name and memory, always be for a blessing. "the meaning of life, is to give life meaning" ✡ Ani Yehudi אני יהודי Le'olam lo shuv לעולם לא שוב! | |||
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| Gone but Together Again. Dad & Uncle  |
Thanks again for sharing. Enjoy your cigar and bourbon tonight! | |||
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I also gave the eulogy at my father's funeral. Hardest thing I had ever done. But I was requested by my family to do it. | |||
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Not really from Vienna |
That was a fine eulogy for a good man. Nice job. | |||
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Ronin, Thanks for sharing the eulogy - you did a great job with that - those are some great stories  .That's some pretty country near McGregor. Love that School House Cafe up there too... | |||
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| Little ray of sunshine  |
I have to say this occurred to me. Just get up and give a eulogy. What are they gonna do? Delta Airline you? However you handle it, me best to you. The fish is mute, expressionless. The fish doesn't think because the fish knows everything. | |||
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recovering ammoholic |
Ronin, That was a beautiful eulogy. Your dad sounds awesome, and very close to my own father. My condolences for your loss. v/r, J --------------------------------- How's your cardio? Nature, alas, made only one being out of you although there was material for a good man and a rogue.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you. - Friedrich Nietzsche | |||
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| recovering ammoholic |
--------------------------------- How's your cardio? Nature, alas, made only one being out of you although there was material for a good man and a rogue.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you. - Friedrich Nietzsche | |||
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Thanks for the update and the beautiful eulogy. I'm sorry for your loss of what sounds like a wonderful man. I'll make sure to give my pops an extra big hug next time I see him. I love him as much as I'm sure you love yours. | |||
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Mistake Not... |
I'm sorry for your loss. Lost my dad when I was 19 suddenly and still regret not being more "together" at funeral to say something. But he knows I love him, it's the last thing I said to him. I'm glad you got your chance to speak. You're in my prayers. ___________________________________________ Life Member NRA & Washington Arms Collectors Mistake not my current state of joshing gentle peevishness for the awesome and terrible majesty of the towering seas of ire that are themselves the milquetoast shallows fringing my vast oceans of wrath. Velocitas Incursio Vis - Gandhi | |||
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