My Aunt has gotten worse. I feel for my cousins. My sister and I took care of our Mom 24/7 for about the last year of her life. But Mom’s was all physical. She still had her mind.
I can’t imagine the Hell of a loved one not knowing the people around them.

I’m hoping that as long as they know they are loved, that might help.
I have a parent that is very anxious about dementia and I believe one of their siblings has been diagnosed. They have loved me so well my whole life that I’m hoping I’ll be able to keep that in mind if this goes down the road that we think it will.

D struck both my parents............father passed 5 yrs ago...Mom just in September. They were in a very good care facility----and I hated every visit there to see the living hell of all the residents.

I will never be in such a place - and will exit this world with my senses intact at my time of choice...........

The last time I saw my mother I fed her dinner in bed and she didn't know who I was.
It's tough, hang in there.

I am 67 now , pretty much everyone I know is older.

Some are slow, some slower, some are hurting some hurting more,
A few still have great attitudes and expound the virtues of daily living.

Most seem to be putting up with the world while doing all it takes to stay vertical and in motion.

The future is not looking at all like rainbows and rhubarb cake.

I am scheduled for three surgeries in five weeks,
If I can get the CO pay dollars together.

I've decided that if my brain quits, I won't be Institutionalized.

"A mind is a terrible thing to waste. " ....................... drill sgt.

My mom who, is 74, is currently in a nursing home with dementia and stage five kidney failure. Last week I had to make the decision on whether she should get dialysis. I, with the consultation of her nephrologist, decided she won't get dialysis. That was the hardest decision I've ever had to make. I can't get her opinion because she doesn't know what's going on...dementia sucks.

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Make sure they have her on some sort of pain meds(at least Tylenol). The docs will tell you kidney failure isn't painful but they are full of crap. It's like the worst case of flu (body aches) ever. The only good thing is she will be incredibly tired and should sleep a lot. My best to you, your mother and your family.

My 80 y/o MIL has vascular dementia and we put her in assisted living this year. Within 3 months they put her in memory care. She still remembers names but that is starting to fade. She can’t take care of herself and thinks she is still going to work.

She is very angry at her daughters, thinking they stole all her money and are ungrateful. She actually told my wife that she wishes she never had her.

It’s tough watching the abuse my wife is taking while being her mom’s advocate with the MC facility. She knows it’s the disease talking but still it’s difficult for her to sit back and take the abuse. All I can do is be there for her when she needs my shoulder.

ugeesta…
That is a common theme…
1. They want to go home. Where ever they remember home to be. In my Aunt’s case it’s my grandmother’s house in our home town. Which is still in the family at this point.

2. The confusion at misplacing things and not remembering things turns into anger. And it’s usually directed at whomever they see the most. She has accused her daughter of taking everything she owns…all the typical stuff.

The whole situation is hard to watch.