My wife and I moved to Reno, from Las Vegas. Reno is a lovely town but I miss the hustle and bustle of a real city. It also doesn't help that she's just awful at being a wife. What's funny is I joined here before my first Marriage, I suspect Sigforum will see me through number 2 as well.

Thank you for reading my TED Rant.

My first wife made me move to somewhere I hated so, I know a little of how you feel. Just the opposite for me though, from peaceful country life to city rat race and way too many people. We've been happily divorced for 37 years. I wish you well.

Wow. Sounds like you may be in for a bumpy road ahead.

Was there any discussion on it at all? What about the job situation?

When you say " My wife made me ..." I'm out .

Just out of curiosity, what is it about Las Vegas city life you miss?

"My wife made me move"

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Originally posted by FenderBender:

It also doesn't help that she's just awful at being a wife.

What's funny is I joined here before my first Marriage

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Originally posted by vinnybass:
Just out of curiosity, what is it about Las Vegas city life you miss?

Hookers, blow, AND dice

You chose the least-worst option. Unless you were enthusiastic about the move in the first place, but it doesn't sound like it since you characterize it as she "made" you move.

Recognize that you did indeed choose this move. You are choosing to stay with her. Least-worst is not a long term success plan.

Maybe under the circumstances the pain is worth it, idk what factors are involved in your choice.

At one point my first wife gave me an ultimatum, and I chose what I thought was least-worst. That was the day I should have walked away from the marriage.

Sorry you are having trouble.

I wish I could offer you some solace. It’s not an easy situation. I hope you find a resolution. In the mean time we are all here.

It's weird how this life stuff works.
This post made me look back at 43 years together.

Prior to eloping, (as we were both divorced)

We made an agreement , we decided that having to work at a happy relationship ,was not for either of us and if and when this work came about ,
We would part ways.


I've never hung the "wife" yoke on her and she never
Fitted me with the " husband "yoke ."

She chose to relocate three times and I chose to relocate twice,

Geography was far less important than the happiness we shared together.

Sorry you are not happy.

My soul mate tried that exact thing. Not Vegas or Reno but stated where we would live, her decision. It wasn’t mutual. So I said no to getting married under that demand. Best decision I ever made. Still have never seen a divorce judge or attorney. Best of luck with it. I moved to another city and state over 20 years ago thinking it was a good idea at the time. I knew 2 weeks in I severely fucked up and it took me a full year to get out of there. Try to be calm, talk to her about it and explain you aren’t happy there. Maybe you can work it out with her. I sure couldn’t with my girl. The housing location was just one demand on a list of demands and I wasn’t having any of it.

I hope this works out for you.
Maybe you guys could sit down and talk about what your hopes/dreams/expectations are for husband/wife?
I’d be pretty heartbroken if my husband stated I was just awful at being a wife, but I’d also want to know specifically what the fuck I was awful at.

Does she feel the same way about you? I hope this was just a rough night..

My ex-wife sold my house in so-cal while I was deployed and gave me an ultimatum to retire from the military or not see my kids. So there is the made me… we were divorced with in 2 years of my youngest graduating high school.

Another rant about a members wife. Oh, never mind.

Good luck FB.

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Originally posted by vinnybass:
Just out of curiosity, what is it about Las Vegas city life you miss?

honestly I miss the weather, and access to really anything I'm after, not that I'm after anything illegal, but I need cheap ammo, or some esoteric ingredient for something I'm cooking. I'm not specifically hung up on Vegas, I'd be just as happy in Phoenix(I just hate their airport).

Man, that sucks. Anywhere I go in the world, I tend to know within about 20 min. if I like it and could live there. When Mrs. Lee and I were dating, I was working in downtown DC and wanted out badly. We flew to San Diego and drove to El Paso, making lots of stops along the way. I said I really wanted to move to Phoenix and she said she was onboard. We got married in Vegas a year later and moved to Phoenix six mos. later.

I forget where I read this, but it was something to the effect of, "Live when you want to live and marry whom you want to marry. If you do these two things right, everything else will fall into place." I have found this to be very true.

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
Another rant about a members wife. Oh, never mind.

Good luck FB.

Don't be ugly.



This is America.

There is no shortage of rivers.

Although finding a decent van to live in may be a challenge, but it is worth the effort for peace of mind.

And the universe is always willing, to drop the right cat in your lap, to keep you company.

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Originally posted by old rugged cross:
Another rant about a members wife. Oh, never mind.

What, I didn't smack you hard enough last time?

You got something to say, you say it to me. You don't take your hurt feelings out on your fellow members.

I liked Reno. Close to the mountains and a more desirable climate than Vegas. You can get used to it.