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Dating in your 40s

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July 09, 2026, 02:53 PM
tatortodd
Dating in your 40s
A little satire on the “quality” of the dating scene when you're middle aged or older:




Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity

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July 10, 2026, 10:08 AM
Graniteguy
It really only takes two words to explain this dysfunctional phenomenon:

Social Media
July 12, 2026, 08:20 AM
downeastnc1
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July 12, 2026, 04:10 PM
P220 Smudge
quote:
Originally posted by Graniteguy:
It really only takes two words to explain this dysfunctional phenomenon:

Social Media


Yes, but no. It's just the internet at large. Average-to-toad type women have been getting bombarded for decades with attention they would never have gotten decades ago simply because the entire world's worth of sexually-motivated men out there are competing with each other for access to them, where before, they would've had to pick from the guys at the local bar or bowling alley, and this has artificially inflated their self-perceived value. They all think they're 9's or 10's (I hate the number scale, but let's use it for simplicity to make a point) because a half zillion Indian guys have tried to pay them for feet pics, and they won't "settle" for a guy who isn't "on their level." Additionally, third wave feminism has encouraged the "I am the table" mentality, which has been enormously damaging to society at large (i.e. what you bring to the table - "I am the table"). Guys who are 9's and 10's have capitalized on a lot of this, engaging in rampant hypergamy and fucking everything with a pulse because they can, and the women at the low end of the scale who would've seen that coming in the days of yore go ahead and give it up because they think they actually have a shot and don't see it as what it is.

I have a few friends who either went through this in recent years, or are navigating this now and it's a real problem. The modern dynamic between men and women in the western world is, to put it simply, quite fucked. I've had some really depressing conversations, and am beyond relieved that I got married before the world turned into what it is now. I think we're going to continue to see the divorce rate rise and the marriage rate decline.

Discussed and analyzed at length by this guy, and recommended viewing for any man dating at any age these days:

https://www.youtube.com/@hoe_math


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July 12, 2026, 09:33 PM
fischtown7
What is that saying "Dating when you are over 40 is like going to Goodwill and trying to find something that is not broken or stinks"
July 12, 2026, 09:46 PM
tatortodd
quote:
Originally posted by P220 Smudge:
...Additionally, third wave feminism has encouraged the "I am the table" mentality, which has been enormously damaging to society at large (i.e. what you bring to the table - "I am the table")...
The crazy thing is the "I am the table" women are less happy than previous generations despite all this malarky was sold as making them empowered, more independent, and happier. Anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication use in women has exploded the past 20 years and women are twice as likely to be prescribed as men.

Check out these Gemini AI summary of CDC Anti-depressant and anti-anxiety prescription stats for women:




Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity

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July 13, 2026, 11:50 AM
bubbatime
All the good ones are snapped up quick and taken off the market. What left is the scraps and you still have to be a junk yard dog and fight over whatever scraps are available.

Its depressing honestly.


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