I have one neighbor who I have lived next to for 18 years and I can’t stand him as he has been annoying the entire time. While his kids were growing up he would scream and curse at them while in the backyard over stupid stuff. I could never imagine speaking to your child the way he did. He does it to his wife too.

Our HOA allows for no more than 3 animals. He has always had 3 dogs and sometimes more. For a while now he has 6 dogs. I love dogs, but these are very yapping dogs. I built a nice deck for me and my wife to sit out on and we can’t enjoy it. Within minutes of sitting on the deck or even me just going out to grill, the dogs go nuts and bark absolutely non-stop. They never come out to stop the dogs from barking. It is like living next to a dog pound. This is a normal neighborhood; not like out in the country.

So I have put up with the 6 dogs for quite a while now thinking it was temporary, but it does not appear to be so. I finally had it tonight while grilling dinner and decided to report him to the HOA. You can’t do an anonymous report, but they say they will not provide your information which I do not have faith in. I just can’t stand the neighbor or this situation. I hope I have not started something I will regret. Would you have done the same?

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Would you have done the same?

Quite probably. Given his other behaviors, I don't think it would have done any good to talk to him.

Hopefully we won’t have to deal with it much longer. We have bought land out in the country and need to meet with builders to get the ball rolling on moving out there. We won’t be able to see any of our neighbors once we move.

When I say this guy yells at his kids and wife, I mean yells like a lunatic at the top of his lungs berating them. It is crazy.

One of the reasons HOA’s are around is to resolve situations like this. I’d have done the same.

Sure he may give you the stink eye, but it sounds like you’re past that anyway. Reporting it to the HOA maybe the least confrontational way to address the dogs/barking.

I'd have jumped on that after the first hour

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Originally posted by StorminNormin:
Hopefully we won’t have to deal with it much longer. We have bought land out in the country and need to meet with builders to get the ball rolling on moving out there. We won’t be able to see any of our neighbors once we move.

When I say this guy yells at his kids and wife, I mean yells like a lunatic at the top of his lungs berating them. It is crazy.

The dogs and his volitilty could bite you when it’s selling time.

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Originally posted by Underdog:

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Originally posted by StorminNormin:
Hopefully we won’t have to deal with it much longer. We have bought land out in the country and need to meet with builders to get the ball rolling on moving out there. We won’t be able to see any of our neighbors once we move.

When I say this guy yells at his kids and wife, I mean yells like a lunatic at the top of his lungs berating them. It is crazy.

The dogs and his volitilty could bite you when it’s selling time.

Yeah I have thought about that. That is why I at least hope to get him to comply with the number of pets.

Our hoa has a two dog limit per home, check the bylaws, contact the city about rules for dogs, if he’s in violation report him there as well

Pepper balls.

Invite the HOA pres over for a BBQ...the problem should solve itself w/o a need to report.

HOA or not, there's nothing you can do about a neighbor like that. They're inconsiderate assholes and they'll remain inconsiderate assholes. All you can accomplish is exacerbating their level of assholery.

Have experienced it first hand

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Originally posted by StorminNormin:
I have one neighbor who I have lived next to for 18 years and I can’t stand him as he has been annoying the entire time....

So I have put up with the 6 dogs for quite a while now thinking it was temporary, but it does not appear to be so. I finally had it tonight while grilling dinner and decided to report him to the HOA. You can’t do an anonymous report, but they say they will not provide your information which I do not have faith in. I just can’t stand the neighbor or this situation. I hope I have not started something I will regret. Would you have done the same?

I take it you didn't talk to him first, nicely? At least gave him a chance, before taking it to the next level of reporting.

What the Q said.

I want a person to confront me face to face, and I'll do the same. Without malice, in the spirit of letting a person take advantage of the opportunity to deal with the issue.

Depending on the direction things go, I/they, know what next step to take.

Try not to escalate. He can dirty up his property and make trouble for you selling yours

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Originally posted by sigmonkey:
What the Q said.

I want a person to confront me face to face, and I'll do the same. Without malice, in the spirit of letting a person take advantage of the opportunity to deal with the issue.

Depending on the direction things go, I/they, know what next step to take.

I'd like to agree, if the other party is reasonable. Two things suggest he is not. The first is that jerkoff is in violation of the rules in the first place. IMO this is knowingly, not out of ignorance. The second is this:

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When I say this guy yells at his kids and wife, I mean yells like a lunatic at the top of his lungs berating them. It is crazy.

This is not a reasonable person, but a bully. Who knows what he does to them behind closed doors. Especially if the OP is smaller than he, a confrontation could very well escalate to a shouting match, even violence. But then, it wouldn't take long for jerkoff to figure out who snitched, which might lead to retaliation.



I don't envy the OP one bit.

My old subdivision is half acre lots and the surrounding areas are smaller residential lots. We are in town, not rural. I had a neighbor who would, during the dry season, burn trash and yard waste in a pit on the far corner of an empty lot he owned adjecent to his house. He would let the fires burning all night long without watching them or putting them out. The pit was a cabbage palm trunks arranged in a circle and as far as possible from his house. This placed it within 75 feet of my house and 150 feet from his. The wind would blow partial burned trash on my lawn. I talked to him three times.

The first time I was nice as possible and casual about it while asking if he could put them out before going to bed. He mentioned he didn't have a hose long enough to reach. The second time I brought a copy of the county ordinances pertaining to burning trash and yard waste. I pointed out a half a dozen ways he was in violation. Can't bring trash home from your business, can't be within 300 feet of a structure he didn't own, can only be done during certain daylight hours, must be monitored and able to extinguish, etc. I told him next time it happens, I'm getting video and calling the Fire Department. This time, he at least moved the pit so it was away from my house. He also put a couple plastic chairs next to the 8 foot diameter pit because campfires were exempt from the time restrictions.

The third time, I brought over the video of the fire burning all night long with no supervision until 9:00 the next morning and he proceed to swear at me and asked my to leave. I said I'd already talked to the fire marshal and would be calling him personally if it happened again.

The only thing I asked each time was for him to watch it and put it out before going to bed. The first two times he and then he and his wife said they weren't those kind of people and said they watched the fires and put them out. Their actions proved otherwise. We have weekly, free trash, recycle, and yard waste pickup. He escalated things from there overtly and I later found out covertly as well. He apologized about 4 years later and told me he had called the Sheriff's Department twice and Child welfare once. I would never have known because neither group ever talked to me.

We moved this year and couldn't be happier about it. If a neighbor puts my family in danger like this again, I'm going straight to what ever authorities would be appropriate. It just isn't worth the years we spent next to assholes to try the neighborly route.

Too many barking dogs? The guy knows it and doesn't care. Screw talking to him and report it. Both to the HOA and find out what the laws are on barking dogs. Around here, I believe it's an hour or more is against county noise ordinances.

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Originally posted by 12131:
I take it you didn't talk to him first, nicely? At least gave him a chance, before taking it to the next level of reporting.

No, I didn’t. He has always had at least 3 dogs and when it went to 4 I thought it might be temporary. Now that he is at 6 dogs, I have had it and I really don’t think talking to him would do anything. If the HOA keeps their word and does not divulge who reported it, then it could be any of the homes next to or behind him who reported it.

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Originally posted by StorminNormin:
Would you have done the same?

Yes. Also get one of these Anti-Barking Devices

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Originally posted by 12131:

I take it you didn't talk to him first, nicely? At least gave him a chance, before taking it to the next level of reporting.

'While his kids were growing up he would scream and curse at them while in the backyard over stupid stuff. I could never imagine speaking to your child the way he did. He does it to his wife too."

This quote from the OP would suggest that "talking nicely" would accomplish exactly nothing. He is giving all the cues of just being a hothead. Why put yourself in the line of fire, so to speak, over that?

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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:

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Originally posted by StorminNormin:
Would you have done the same?

Yes. Also get one of these Anti-Barking Devices

I tried one of those once and it didn’t do anything.