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Seeker of Clarity
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Damn near speechless reading that post. What a moment. A tough one for sure. The moment only happened though because you love him enough to make the effort to engage him in daily activities to help equip him with life skill.

Well.. That... and that your brain (like mine) is broken into thinking that a torn box makes the cereal in the inner bag no good! Wink

Remember not to judge yourself at your worst moments. Not that this was one, but it's a bell ringer for ya.. Forgive those moments. Judge your average performance, and give bonus points for your love. And always remember, as I've found, that ice creme buys a fair chunk of forgiveness.

God be with you all. Give a shout if you need anything from over here in Buttovia.



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Posts: 8174 | Location: PA | Registered: August 02, 2004Reply With QuoteReport This Post
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I think most fathers have done this at some point, regardless of whether or not their sons have any challenges.

The fact that your son does have the additional challenge of autism makes it hurt harder, its harder to make them understand that you either weren't really upset at all or snapped out of turn.

This doesn't make you a bad father, you let him know he didn't let you down and that you love him. Let him know in your eyes he could never be inadequate, I expect you did and you do.


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God bless him Mark. And you too.


Exactly this.


Indeed!

I have dealt with a couple of autistic kids/young adults and sometimes it is not at all fun, or funny.

To the OP, do not bee too hard on yourself!


Elk

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Mark
You may want to watch the movie, "The Accountant"
You may have a whole different take on things.
The end make's you think completely differently!


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Holy cow that cuts me to the quick, and I don't personally know either of you!

He sounds like a great son, and it sounds as if he has a great dad.


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Continue to give love, and you will continue to receive love.

Thank you for sharing your story


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I think most fathers have done this at some point, regardless of whether or not their sons have any challenges. .


I would agree. I did it today. Snapped at him over something he was joking about. If you're intelligent, and you care, you'll have regrets.



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Thank you for sharing this. That hit me the same as every time I hear "Cat's in the Cradle" by Harry Chapin. I try to make the most of my time with my kids and probably still fall short.
 
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Mark. I don't know what to say. I'm "dating a girl" that has a son with Asperger's, I know that it is difficult. Just love him, try to explain why, and be there for him.

Teaching him is what you are doing. Tell him that you love him and that nothing is"wrong" with him. That you are not, and never disappointed in him. That you are just teaching him that you have to be careful with what you buy.

I wish that I could be of more help. Know this. You are a great farther. Your son needs you, and your love. Give him your love and support. God bless you and your son. God bless your family.


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Thanks for all the encouragement, my friends.

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Originally posted by ZSMICHAEL:
... I am curious as to how he doing with the kidney issues ...
Thanks for asking. The medicine (prednisone) is working. The doctors are pleased with the progress so far.
 
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There is no set of instructions you get when you raise a child.

It's a learning experience for all involved. You are both luck to have each other. You both recognize this, but at different levels.

Keep confidence in everything you do and in turn your son will also.

Thank you for sharing this moment from your heart.

Cheers~
 
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My God, my heart broke so hard. He was apologizing to me for being autistic. I was holding back tears.



I don't think I could've held them back...


My eyes were/are watering like crazy and I was not even there.

Mark, you guys have done a marvelous job. God bless you all!!!!!


Elk

There has never been an occasion where a people gave up their weapons in the interest of peace that didn't end in their massacre. (Louis L'Amour)

"To compel a man to furnish contributions of money for the propagation of opinions which he disbelieves and abhors, is sinful and tyrannical. "
-Thomas Jefferson

"America is great because she is good. If America ceases to be good, America will cease to be great." Alexis de Tocqueville

FBHO!!!



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Sounds like you're doing good. Smile



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OMG, I have a special place in my heart for kids like that, I have my own story but I don't want to shift the focus of your thread. It is far to special a moment in time. God bless you...!!


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My ex-wife brought home special needs children home with her , every ten or 12 days, mostly autistic and down syndrome,
they were at "at risk " kids from single parent parents or two criminal or poor or addicted homes.
She was a state assigned case worker.

When we got married I was on the fence about having children, after 2 years , I was way the hell off the fence and two yards over.

a man has GOT to know his limitations.

and this learning experience gave me the information that I was not equipped to provide care for children , let alone special needs children.

god bless those that care for ,love and commit this life for those that can not.





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Perhaps this was not the moment of self-awareness you fear it was but simply your son's casual analysis of the situation.

He's blessed to have you in his life. You're a terrific dad, friend.


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You're son's honesty with you is a rare thing. Even though you felt his pain, it was a beautiful moment. You gained insight into him, and he is completely open with you. You're a great dad and your boy knows you love him. He knows it in his heart.
 
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You must be a really good father to him. My heart breaks for you. God bless you and your son.


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Ahh, my heart broke reading that. Thanks for sharing your story with us. Sometimes I need to read stories like this from time to time to remind me what's really important in life.

Many blessings to you and yours.
 
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