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I have an adopted relative from overseas. We know absolutely nothing about her blood relatives and where assured there is no way of tracking her from our side or birth family side. She sent DNA to 23andMe. Is there anyway someone from the birth family could on purpose or accidentally match up her DNA and find her. She was a baby when we got her and I fear (with no justification) she might find her parents and leave.



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Ancestry.com will notify you if you use their service and you match others who've used their service. You can decline if you wish, or communicate anonymously with the other parties.

If her birth parents are from a non-Engish speaking nation, I'd say you have little to fear. However, it is not in any way unreasonable for a human being to want to know who they are and from where they came. It would be a highly ungrateful child, though, who would leave those who cared for them, to be with those who abandoned them.

I've a feeling that a lot of people looking for that Dr. Phil reunion end up being severely disappointed when they do met their blood kin. In many (most?) of these cases, it would be better to not seek out parents who abandoned you, for reasons which should be obvious.

I had a friend whose birth father showed up at her door when she was 40 years old. He was a terminally ill alcoholic who had no money and no place else to go. It was a shocking and miserable experience for her, to have him show up only when he needed help, and to have to care for him as he died. It did cure her of curiousity about her roots, though.


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Not to be flip or unnecessarily alarmist, but do we truly believe in this day and age that anything that’s recorded on a computer that’s linked to the Internet isn’t susceptible to unauthorized disclosure? Highly personal information in both government personnel databases and large private financial institutions has been compromised in recent years. That is, of course, much different than an individual’s gaining unauthorized access to a secured database to locate a specific record, but what if the entire database is maliciously hacked and made available on the ’net for anyone to view?

I’m no computer security authority, but I do know from reading science journals that many people are reluctant to cooperate with DNA-related research projects for medical or other purposes because of concerns about that exact thing, so it’s not just me.




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When I was a PI, I had several cases of kids searching for parents who had disappeared from their lives. Despite being cautioned that these "reunions" don't often work out, they all wanted to proceed. I cant recall anyone who was happy with the outcome. And they had to pay for the experience!
And a chance of a successful DNA match, under the circumstances you have laid out, seems remote.


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I'm on 23&Me. You can keep your identity anonymous by using a user name. Just like this forum.

The system will tell me I am related or have a match with Uppster, but then I have to contact Uppster through 23&Me, and then Uppster can just ignore or not respond, and then I won't know Jack and have to hope some other match will respond, to help me figure out . . . .

It's similar to eBay. Neither buyer nor seller know the other person's real identity, but communicate thru the 3rd party.
 
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Originally posted by mikeyspizza:
I'm on 23&Me. You can keep your identity anonymous by using a user name. Just like this forum.

The system will tell me I am related or have a match with Uppster, but then I have to contact Uppster through 23&Me, and then Uppster can just ignore or not respond, and then I won't know Jack and have to hope some other match will respond, to help me figure out . . . .

It's similar to eBay. Neither buyer nor seller know the other person's real identity, but communicate thru the 3rd party.


^ this

I do however have no issue letting others identify me on 23 and me, I do however know my relatives, my aunt showed up on it.
 
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Originally posted by sigfreund:
Not to be flip or unnecessarily alarmist, but do we truly believe in this day and age that anything that’s recorded on a computer that’s linked to the Internet isn’t susceptible to unauthorized disclosure? Highly personal information in both government personnel databases and large private financial institutions has been compromised in recent years. That is, of course, much different than an individual’s gaining unauthorized access to a secured database to locate a specific record, but what if the entire database is maliciously hacked and made available on the ’net for anyone to view?

I’m no computer security authority, but I do know from reading science journals that many people are reluctant to cooperate with DNA-related research projects for medical or other purposes because of concerns about that exact thing, so it’s not just me.


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^^ That was funny. I was thinking something similar. Still, not going to publicly post my dna in any dna registry.
 
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I have a VERY racist acquaintance that did the 23 and me deal. He's from Sicily and Oh So proud of his Italian heritage.

Well....23 and me showed he was 18% AFRICAN. To say that I have been having fun with that is putting it mildly.

Frankly I'd be afraid to submit to the dna test.
I'd be afraid I was shown to be part Russian not the 100% Polish I've been lead to believe. LOL.
 
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I have a VERY racist acquaintance that did the 23 and me deal. He's from Sicily and Oh So proud of his Italian heritage.

Well....23 and me showed he was 18% AFRICAN. To say that I have been having fun with that is putting it mildly.

Frankly I'd be afraid to submit to the dna test.
I'd be afraid I was shown to be part Russian not the 100% Polish I've been lead to believe. LOL.




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Originally posted by mikeyspizza:
I'm on 23&Me. You can keep your identity anonymous by using a user name. Just like this forum.

The system will tell me I am related or have a match with Uppster, but then I have to contact Uppster through 23&Me, and then Uppster can just ignore or not respond, and then I won't know Jack and have to hope some other match will respond, to help me figure out . . . .

It's similar to eBay. Neither buyer nor seller know the other person's real identity, but communicate thru the 3rd party.


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