Can’t win lately

March 09, 2018, 12:29 PM

buddy357

Can’t win lately

I’m supposed to get my son every other weekend. I was taking half days on those fridays to drive down from Baltimore to NC and back.

The last couple trips have not gone well, I couldn’t finish the work by noon and couldn’t just walk away from the work if I wanted to keep my job. So I was late once and the second time she said don’t bother coming. So it’s been a month. I took the whole day off today to avoid issues and left at 9. Since 1030 I’ve been sitting at a tire store south of DC waiting because a semi lost the tread off a tire in front of me. Took out a tire and the spare somehow. And ripped a big chunk of the back bumper off as it came out.
So again I am late and have no idea when I will get out of here to finish the drive.

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March 09, 2018, 02:19 PM

sigmonkey

Sorry to read.

I hate people that use children as a weapon, or tool to manipulate or "punish" people.

Good thing I am not a judge, for it would be the fastest way to earn a contempt action.

March 09, 2018, 03:04 PM

FrankMoses

Sometimes it feels like every time you get up, you get knocked off your feet again.
It will get better. It really will.

March 09, 2018, 03:12 PM

pbramlett

quote:
Originally posted by buddy357:
I’m supposed to get my son every other weekend. I was taking half days on those fridays to drive down from Baltimore to NC and back.

The last couple trips have not gone well, I couldn’t finish the work by noon and couldn’t just walk away from the work if I wanted to keep my job. So I was late once and the second time she said don’t bother coming. So it’s been a month. I took the whole day off today to avoid issues and left at 9. Since 1030 I’ve been sitting at a tire store south of DC waiting because a semi lost the tread off a tire tonight in front of me. Took out a tire and the spare somehow. And ripped a big chunk of the back bumper off as it came out.
So again I am late and have no idea when I will get out of here to finish the drive.

enterprise, they will pick you up!

March 09, 2018, 09:55 PM

buddy357

I thought about a rental. But I would have had to take a day off work next week to return the rental and get the van from the tire shop. And since it’s a company mini-van with all my tools in it I couldn’t do that. I just got back to Baltimore with my son. No way I would have spent four hours of my time with him tomorrow going to get it. I have to take him home and then return to Baltimore Sunday, I don’t get enough time with him to waste.

The crappy part is I had planned to pick him up from school and be back up here by 7 since I had the whole day off. Instead I was late for 6pm again picking him up. I got lucky his mom had dinner plans and left him with her dad. Had he been with her I wouldn’t have been able to get him.

March 10, 2018, 10:57 AM

slabsides45

Is there a legal ruling stating that if you are after a certain pick up time, he can't come with you? If not, how does she get to determine what time you get to take him on your legally described visitation weekend?

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March 10, 2018, 01:03 PM

buddy357

No. The court ruling is pretty vague. But she has been known for leaving for the beach at 6 if I am not on time and taking him with her. And the judges answer when my lawyer got it in court was “you should have been on time, dismissed.” It not fair to her to expect everything be put in hold for me, I know that. That’s why I took the day off.

We can agree to different times and days. And we have when she wasn’t being herself. But if she’s ever nice and works with me I know she wants something. She’s tried to get me to sign papers that her folks get custody if she passes away and she often calls to tell him what he’s missing there and offers to let him come home early. She’s not easy to deal with so I hate doing it.

March 10, 2018, 04:58 PM

Aquabird

That is a shame. Hope it goes better.

We all go through times when it all seems to go against us.
Have been going through a downer recently myself.

March 11, 2018, 08:09 AM

SIG 229R

Sounds like all the way around, she wants everything are her convenance and just trying to make you jump thru as many hoops as possible. However there is no wya under the sun and stars I would sign papers for her parents to get custody should something happen to her. she sounds as if she thinks she is entitled.