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Because 2017 hasn't been amusing enough already...
July 30, 2017, 11:13 AM
Ronin1069Because 2017 hasn't been amusing enough already...
To recap:
Dad died
Father in law died 5 days after dad's funeral
My job went to shit
Now it seems as if my 74 year old step-dad has the early onset of dementia. I've been reading quite a bit and my mom is meeting with the doc in a bit. (Step dad is in hospital).
Having her ask doc about difference between Alzheimer’s and dementia (which is what they are saying), but the reading I’m doing makes me think that the hallucinations, bathroom issues, etc are more aligned with Alzheimers than dementia. (More general confusion and forgetfulness)
He watched his mom go through this and it really fucked with him, always said that he'd never "go out that way". I had my sister remove his guns from the house until I can get up there are better assess.
Fuck a duck.
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July 30, 2017, 11:18 AM
billnchristyHang in there buddy. It's always darkest before the dawn.
July 30, 2017, 11:19 AM
NMPinNYCI'm sad for you, Sir. I wish you strength and peace in this year of great sorrow. God bless.
Best regards,
Nick.
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July 30, 2017, 11:49 AM
Redford1970My civilian understanding of these two diagnoses is, Dementia is a broad category and includes Alzheimer’s. Root causes are different, symtoms largely the same.
July 30, 2017, 01:50 PM
molachiBeen through that with my MIL. Not an easy time for sure.
July 30, 2017, 04:11 PM
GustoferI had a year like that in 2013. Mom died, less than two months later a brother died, and three months after that Dad died.
We did get pretty good at the whole funeral thing though, so there was an upside.
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July 30, 2017, 06:42 PM
wolfe 21Been down the dementia path. It sucks. I am sorry.
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July 30, 2017, 06:50 PM
GaryBFIt doesn't matter what you call it, dementia sucks. I went though it with my dad. The second time the police found him out on the street I had to place him in a home.
July 30, 2017, 06:59 PM
Jeff YarchinRonin, so sorry to read this. Hang in there. Things will get better, just keep grinding.
July 30, 2017, 07:12 PM
mrbill345Went through that multiple times in my family; grandmother (maternal), paternal grandfather & father. It's very difficult. Stay strong, take care of yourself, & good luck.
“Agnostic, gun owning, conservative, college educated hillbilly” July 31, 2017, 11:20 AM
ShouldBFishinRonin,
Sorry to hear that. It was difficult to watch my grandmother go down that path for several years. Dementia sucks. Hang in there.
July 31, 2017, 02:02 PM
AquabirdYeah, life is tough in spots, almost to the point that you think it will never end.
Every time I think I have it rough, then I hear about or meet someone who is far worse off.
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July 31, 2017, 05:00 PM
SapperSteelVery sorry to hear about this, Ronin.
Wishing the best for you, thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thanks,
Sap
July 31, 2017, 05:38 PM
Ronin1069Thank you all for the words. Currently we are being introduced to Sundowner's Syndrome. Frustrating, but good to have a name for it. He qualifies under ALL of the symptoms below.
When you are with someone who has Alzheimer's disease, you may notice big changes in how they act in the late afternoon or early evening. Doctors call it sundowning, or sundown syndrome.
Fading light seems to be the trigger. The symptoms can get worse as the night goes on and usually get better by morning.http://www.webmd.com/alzheimer.../manage-sundowning#1 When someone is sundowning, they may be:
Agitated (upset or anxious)
Restless
Irritable
Confused
Disoriented
Demanding
Suspicious
They also may:
Yell
Pace
Hear or see things that aren’t there
Have mood swings
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July 31, 2017, 05:55 PM
Skins2881I'm sorry Ronin, no advice for you, but I will say a prayer.
I'm starting to get concerned about my grandfather, he's starting to show early signs, and his younger brother died just over a year ago. I do not want to see him go through it.
Jesse
Sic Semper Tyrannis July 31, 2017, 06:27 PM
mcrimmSorry to hear your news. I've also been down that road.
You're in my prayers.
I'm sorry if I hurt you feelings when I called you stupid - I thought you already knew - Unknown
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deepoceanRonin, I am sorry all these things have happened to you. You will be in my prayers.
August 01, 2017, 10:43 AM
LeemurSorry to hear this. Several family members have been through the dementia/Alzheimer's hell and it's not pretty. Got an aunt that's in the early stages now. Luckily she gave up her car and license a couple months ago.
August 01, 2017, 10:58 AM
sigmonkeyI want you to accept this in the manner it is given.
You are a Marine, and became a Marine for a reason.
There are many people who deal with this stuff, and some are wholly unprepared for it.
You are not in that crowd, and you know what awaits you, because you are a Marine and trained to spot and and assess an enamy before he knows you exist.
That forsight is a blessing and a curse.
But, you are a Marine.
God Bless you.
"the meaning of life, is to give life meaning" ✡ Ani Yehudi אני יהודי Le'olam lo shuv לעולם לא שוב! August 01, 2017, 11:44 AM
bendableMy mo went through this for 7 years,
you may still enjoy your time with your step dad.
eventually you will need to address yourself with your name and "your step son"
and more often than not he while give you a big smile.
They hate it when you test them by asking them who this is or where that is,
the constant failure to recall leaves them frustrated and defeated, don't do that.
I came back to the mid west shortly after mom was diagnosed , the upside is that our conversation times increased 7 fold.
she complained more often , but that is easily
tempered. besides , who wouldn't get testy under the same circumstance's
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take this opportunity to spend more time with them both. I learned a lot that I did not know before
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