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June 12, 2017, 02:24 PM
Fredward
Two Of My Sisters Acting Strangely Non-Responsive About Birth Of My Child: Update Page 2!
You've accomplished something each of them has failed at, a happy relationship and a baby. Let it go.

Congrats! Pics?
June 12, 2017, 03:01 PM
46and2
You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. If certain family members (or friends) aren't reciprocating your loyalty and affections, redirect your care and energy elsewhere. It could be an innocent mistake or a busy thing, or more. Who knows. I've learned to expect very little from most and relish in the pleasant surprises. I'm certain I'm better off for it.

Congratulations, just the same. It sounds like you're winning anyway.
June 12, 2017, 03:12 PM
SpinZone
quote:
I’m pretty upset by this and I’ve told my wife and she agrees it’s very strange.

I will not be including them on any future texts or emails, that’s for damn sure. Screw them.



It is really sad that you are so worked up over this.

It is not like they replied that your baby was ugly. They just did not reply. You are assuming that it was an intentional insult but how do you know that your sisters did not look at your text, say to herself "good for them, they are so lucky" and then went on about her day.

You could just as easily choose to look at this from a more positive point of view since you have nothing to indicate otherwise except for your interpretations of what did not happen.

Why not continue to include them in future group texts? It is no extra work to add the 2 names and you have no idea of the impact you could be having on their lives. 10 years from now they could be telling you how much it meant to them to be included in the family news. Or maybe not but whats the harm?



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June 12, 2017, 05:42 PM
Skins2881
quote:
Originally posted by PASig:
quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
It looks likes in the joy reconciliation, your account is overflowing with joy and their accounts are very much in the hole.

I think you have enough joy to share so that you can overlook this slight from them.


Good point. I will choose to not let this bother me any longer and just move on.


quote:
Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
Maybe the 1 one with the husband responding cares but considers his response sufficient


I didn't think of that, you may be right.


Good. Drop it, reach out to them and see how they are doing. They need your support now more than you need theirs. Grits and Marlin made some good points.



Jesse

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June 12, 2017, 06:51 PM
SapperSteel
quote:
Originally posted by PASig:
quote:
Originally posted by Rey HRH:
It looks likes in the joy reconciliation, your account is overflowing with joy and their accounts are very much in the hole.

I think you have enough joy to share so that you can overlook this slight from them.


Good point. I will choose to not let this bother me any longer and just move on.


quote:
Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
Maybe the 1 one with the husband responding cares but considers his response sufficient


I didn't think of that, you may be right.


Congrats on the baby, PASig! I wish your family the very best!

I think you've made the right decision -- forgive and forget. There's no upside to cutting your sisters out of your life. Nobody's perfect. Forgive and move on.


Thanks,

Sap
June 12, 2017, 07:19 PM
deepocean
quote:
Originally posted by SapperSteel:
There's no upside to cutting your sisters out of your life. Nobody's perfect. Forgive and move on.


Good advice, especially if the sisters who didn't respond are dealing with the circumstances you mentioned.
June 12, 2017, 11:10 PM
Dusty78
quote:
Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
quote:
Originally posted by PASig:
quote:
Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
OMG, nobody LIKED my new SELFIE?!?? TTYL bitches!!!


It was a picture of our newborn son and how much he weighed, etc.

They have done the same for all of us for births, graduations, etc.

I know it wasn't a selfie, my comment was sarcastic.

Can someone point me to the proper Book of Faces etiquette manual? When should you like, when should you respond with a personal message?

I mean if people are getting so butthurt about it, obviously there are people who aren't following the manual.

I'm on FB but I can't (1) believe the shit people put on there (2) can't believe the shit people get pissed off about on there and (3) the time people spend pissed off about shit on there.

You could post a picture of a set of quintuplets, winning the lottery, and curing cancer on the same day and I could easly not "LIKE" the post.

Life happens outside of FB. Maybe the sisters have shit going on and haven't logged in in awhile.

Maybe YOU FORGOT to LIKE one of their POSTS or PICTURES and they are giving YOU the silent treatment???


I'm just here for the memes


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June 13, 2017, 12:11 AM
XLT
pick up the phone and call them, ask them how things are going.
June 13, 2017, 08:33 AM
RHINOWSO
quote:
Originally posted by XLT:
pick up the phone and call them, ask them how things are going.
No way, humans use the phone to TALK???

Since memes were mentioned, I'd hate to disappoint.


June 13, 2017, 12:52 PM
CoolRich59
Some great advice here. I know because I can use some of it myself in my family relations.

By the way, congrats on the new arrival. Why don't you post a picture of the little guy here? Razz


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June 13, 2017, 01:48 PM
Georgeair
Congrats on the new arrival - exciting times!

I'd let it go, and carry on as before.

Don't stress - your hormones will be back to normal several months after the birth.... Wink



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June 13, 2017, 03:50 PM
ulsterman
Congrats.

Sometimes friends are better than family.

I have sister that told several lies about me that resulted in a couple of I.A. investigations. I've said 9 words to her in 30 years. "Your husband is in jail, bond is $1,000 cash." Kinda enjoyed that.

Don't let how they act ruin a joyous occasion in your life.
June 13, 2017, 04:13 PM
Zecpull
quote:
I sent a GROUP TEXT


I Never respond to Group texts..as it is annoying to everyone else on the group.

Maybe you could call your sisters.. and see if anything is wrong. I don't understand your anger, but then I dont do the iPhone stuff.


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June 13, 2017, 06:29 PM
irreverent
I agree with Cheesegrits and whoever told you to pick up the phone.
Someone is undoubtedly crushed by your ability to have a baby when they been suffering and trying so hard to, and the other one sounds like she's just struggling with life in general- don't take it personally- you have so much joy right now.
Call them and share the news in person. Tell them you love them and ask how they are. Invite them to see and hold your new bundle of joy, and don't be hurt if they can't manage to come.
For some, life itself is a struggle. Add hormones on top of that, and you've got quite a mix.

Know that your baby is welcomed and loved by all.


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June 13, 2017, 06:58 PM
flesheatingvirus
Not responding to a text is pretty rude, but you have enough to worry about now.


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June 14, 2017, 10:22 AM
46and2
Virtually nobody likes group texts or emails. Maybe even literally no one.

Take the extra minute or two and make each one at least seem personal, even if you just copy and paste it and change the name.

This is true in life and business.

Just say NO to group messages.
June 14, 2017, 11:58 AM
zoom6zoom
my brother sends group texts all the time. I have no idea who I'm responding to, so I generally don't, I'll call him back. And he knows I hate texting.




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June 15, 2017, 02:45 PM
muzzleloader
OMG, you had me at 5 sisters!

Seriously, congrats on the new addition!


"The days are stacked against what we think we are." Jim Harrison
June 28, 2017, 02:40 PM
PASig
UPDATE:

Out of the blue I get a group text last night from one of my two sisters that I wrote about, the one who's been heartbroken trying to have another child.

They suddenly will be bringing a little boy home Friday! 6 days old as of today, a cute little guy with reddish-brown hair! Apparently it wasn't looking good for a while going the adoption route and an opportunity arose for them and they jumped on it.

We are all good again and I spent last night talking to her and asking her if she was ready for the crazy life of having a newborn again (their first child, a girl, is 5 or 6 now) and she replied that she was nervous! I told her she'd do fine and warned that little boys like to PEE, A LOT, when you change their diapers, LOL! Big Grin

I still have't heard from the other one but I should be seeing her this weekend actually along with my brother as they are both coming up from NC for the 4th of July weekend to visit us all in PA.