You know, I live vicariously through my friends. That being said, I have been divorced 5 times out of 4 friends that I think of as brothers. 1 has never been divorced, 2 have been twice and the other 1 once. And I have never been married.
At first it wasn't for the lack of trying, but damn the interview process was from hell. But it worked great. I out lasted their ability to hold back the batshit craziness that they tried so hard to reign in until the deed was done. I seem to have the patience of Job. After that it was purely from the lack of wanting to. Who the fuck in their right mind would put themselves through that once, let alone twice (just my opinion from my point of view).
But you know what, I like who I am and don't feel like I need to change it. I am very comfortable with just hanging out with me, myself and I. Does not bother me one bit. I have freedom to do, say and buy what I want. Drop of the hat I can pick up and go wherever I want, as long as the dog is good with it. I don't worry about losing half of what I have worked so damn hard to build. My friends kids are like my own, but I can turn them back over to their parents and get the "F" out if I feel the need.
But I know if you try and it does not work, it is not pleasant to go through. Hang in there and whatever you decide to make happen, will.This message has been edited. Last edited by: sig226fan,
It's all about clean living. Just do the right thing, and karma will help with the rest.
Dude, it's a REALLY good time to sell a house! Maybe you can find something that really fits YOU, and at the same time opens up new possibilities and opportunities for change in your life. It will also exchange all the constant reminders of the past for a new drive to create a style/lifestyle that really reflects rainman64's passions! You don't necessarily need to upgrade as much as potentially change your environment, and it'll definitely take your mind off of your previous life w/ your ex. Unless you really love the house, I'd give it some serious consideration if I were in your position.
That's said, as much as breakups suck, YOUR future is bright, so focus on you REALLY like, and live YOUR life. Hang in there...I will get better!
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Sell the house.
Ride the ducati.
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Wow, there's some great advice here.This message has been edited. Last edited by: mod29,
What he said. I've now been divorced longer than I was married. Take your time, don't do a rebound relationship.
Been here also.
There is some very good advise in this thread.
Go Real slow one day at time is the way i handled it .
Having been through divorce once, I feel this is 100% the way to go. It's a great feeling once you get over the initial heartache and get yourself re-established in life.
2011, first and only marriage and that second sentence is gold.
It will suck for a while. You may meet someone later on down the road also.
If you stay single, it's really not bad and the freedom is intoxicating. Just remember to find something to do. A new hobby, a new endeavor at work, whatever. Do multiple hobbies. No one can tell you what to do with your time now. It's all yours.
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I was a miserable sonofabitch during my first marriage. Anything was better than that.
Took a long time to recover financially. People would tell me to find a hobby, but my hobby was working OT so I’d have food to eat. Would have lost my house if two work friends hadn’t moved in. Some long nights missing my kids too.
But there was never any doubt I was doing the right thing.
It’s been 7.5 years since I started mine. Could have never imagined I’d be where I am now back then (in a positive way).
People from this forum helped me through every step. Will always be grateful.
Best advice I can give is to focus on yourself and push forward one day at a time. I didn’t even realize that I was doing it, it seemed to be going so slow initially. But once the ball got rolling it clearly changed my life.
“Smooth seas never made a good sailor.”
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Sorry man. The immediate future will be hard but you will overcome and come out happier.
Drop me an invite on Xbox or something if you want to mow down some enemies and take your mind off it all
As was said don't stop what you love, get on the bike, even just to ride a mile down the road to get some lunch or something. Go put some rounds downrange. Do something you enjoy and you may just lose yourself even for few minutes. Have a match with your friends online. Could even be just getting dinner somewhere you like. Be selfish for a while.
Don't weep for the stupid, or you will be crying all day
Rainman...dont get lost in the past.
I wallowed for months trying to figure out how things got to where they did...
My sister gave me a real spiritual walloping and pointed out that I was so stuck on trying to figure out how and why things happened that it was interfering with my ability to deal with the fact that they had actually happened. Incredibly useful, and really started me moving on.
It's like my brain's a tree and you're those little cookie elves.
Many years ago at work I was cutting a large piece of cardboard to make a box for shipping something. The result was a crooked, off-target mess. One of my co-workers had been watching and offered the following advice...
Keep your eyes on where you're going, instead of where you are. He said it applies not only to cutting cardboard, but to most things in life.
I will never forget his advice.
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"It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye". The Little Prince, Antoine de Saint-Exupery, pilot and author, lost on mission, July 1944, Med Theatre.
Divorced 7 years now after 20 years of marriage.
I thought I would settle down again after a couple of years, and for the first couple years you try to find the "right" person for that. But now, it's not that big a deal. I've been working at home for almost a year and I pass the time building AR's, modifying pistols and rifles, and now a couple semi-auto shotguns. No one says I can't. And due to scarcity now sometimes you just have to buy stuff on the spot. And it's just me and my 17 year old son in the house (I have him half time), and we watch movies we like, and eat food we like.
I've had several girlfriends since my divorce, and reached the higher levels of the hot/crazy matrix, but the older I get the less inclined I am to tolerate any bullshit, so I call it on its face without hesitation. The maturity level of women in general has taken a nosedive in the past decade or two, and it's doesn't seem to get better as they age.
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At fist it does suck. Then you start to enjoy having total freedom. I stock my house with food I like, buy guns or motorcycles whenever I want, watch whatever I like on TV, and figured out how easy it is to casually date hot chicks 10+ years younger than me.
Hang in there Rainman, it WILL get better even it doesn't seem so now.
Strange thing happened today.
I walked past a mirror, wearing only jeans, on the way out of a room. Flicked off the light.
A step out the door, I turned around, flicked on the light, and looked again.
I am 50 lbs lighter, have a waist, and starting a v-shaped chest.
This is probably the first time I liked what I saw in the mirror, in years.
Only one month with a trainer and I look like this? Where will I be in three months?
She left me with a broken heart, but left me looking better....
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