After 11 years, learning to live with a Bipolar/OCD/ADHD woman, her being with her dying mother in Houston for a year until she died, then her father calling her back all the time, she informed me she wanted a divorce.

She has been basically living in Houston for over a year, and only visiting home for clothes and getting more meds for her condition.

Papers filed, and now just waiting for finality.
Today, she deleted her Bookface page, and probably changing her number.

I worked very hard at it, but you can't fix mental issues.

That's why I have been away for awhile.

Sad to hear that, but it sounds like there hasn't been much of a marriage for at least the last couple years, anyway. Maybe she's doing you a favor?

Sorry to hear about your impending divorce. I have two close family members who have or are going through the same. Both husbands are being treated for mental illness. I’ve seen a new happier person emerge on the other side. I wish you the best.

Damn man. I'm very sorry to hear this.

Hopefully time and a Ducati or two will ease the suck.

I too am sorry Rainman. I hope things go as smoothly as possible. A new beginning can be a good thing. Don't let it sour you on life. There is another woman out there meant for you. Your are a good man.

I'm very sorry to hear. You did your darn best. Not your fault. Keep your chin up.

Hopefully no kids?

If so then you will look back very soon and be grateful to be out.

If kids, then the above still but with a bit more aggravation.

Chin up, it’s much MUCH better on the other side. I had about two or three years of real suck due to kid games and finances, but once that was worked out it was all clearly worth it.

Best wishes...a lot of us have been there.

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Originally posted by ensigmatic:
Sad to hear that, but it sounds like there hasn't been much of a marriage for at least the last couple years, anyway. Maybe she's doing you a favor?

This.

Sounds very similar to my situation, where we were basically roommates instead of a married couple for the last few years before divorcing earlier this year. The marriage ended, but it hadn't been much of a marriage for a while by then.

It sucks, but it'll be better in the long run. I'm significantly happier now that I was a year or two ago.

Sorry to hear that you've had this happen, but from the description sounds like its been over since she went back to Houston, so in a way you've been freed and it's 2020 so its the year to get it out of the way and start fresh in 2021....

Good luck with your new and exciting future!

I spent about a year with a bi-polar woman. The highs were great and the lows were terrible. Best wishes for a better 2021.

No kids, just loss of planning for us to be together for a lifetime.
People tell me I went above and beyond in patience.

I put up with a lot, but learned to deal with the ups and downs.
For better or worse. I took those vows seriously.

BTW- I'm her fifth ex husband now.

Yeah, I am the bad guy....

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Originally posted by rainman64:

BTW- I'm her fifth ex husband now....

I think that says a lot right there.

It doesn't sound like you could do more than you already did. Agree that she probably is doing you a favor although I know it does not feel like that right now.

Best of luck!

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Originally posted by rainman64:
BTW- I'm her fifth ex husband now.

Whoa .

Hopefully things will be amicable in the process. Good luck.

Sorry man, that sucks.

You have done all you can

I got divorced about 2 years ago from my wife of over 19 years.

The lead up sucked but I’ve got to say that once it was all over and we’d moved and resettled life was awesome.

We are still good friends, celebrate holidays and even go on vacations with our kids together. I ate Thanksgiving dinner at her parents house and then we all went to Disney the next day for the weekend. I still love her...but man I love being divorced from her.

Here’s hoping the spilt is amicable and that your post divorce is awesome.

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Originally posted by YooperSigs:
I spent about a year with a bi-polar woman. The highs were great and the lows were terrible. Best wishes for a better 2021.

It took just three months to wean myself from a Bi-polar woman. Highs were great, sex was outstanding, but each day was like finding a different woman in my life.

Another I met was on some kind of hormone medication and I always knew when she missed a dosage. That relationship was very brief.

Fellows, be careful out there.

Taking the vows seriously doesn’t mean destroying yourself in the process. I’d say the fact that she’s failed 5 times tells the story. Chin up, move on, take care.

I am so sorry to hear this. I have written this post and deleted it four times now. I don’t want to get into deep details of my own stuff and take away from you.

I have been married 23 years and with my mom going through cancer treatments with a major need for help it is so hard to split time between helping my mom, being there for my wife, and working. Things like this put a ton of stress on all.

I am sorry to hear what you are going through.

Best of luck to you Rainman... you’re a good dude. I only spent an afternoon at your place during that SF Shoot, but I’m a pretty good judge of character. Hang in there, things will get better.