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Originally posted by DSgrouse:
Hopefully this is not family?

Unfortunately, it is.

I'm torn between keeping my distance and hoping there's no backsplash on me and jumping in to try to "fix" it. While I'm sure they'd accept my "help" (read: money) I'm equally sure my advice/guidance would be unwelcome. Prototypical millennial snowflakes.

And quite frankly, I'm not going to provide "help" unless they accept and act on my advice.

Wait and see I guess.

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Originally posted by PHPaul:

quote:

Originally posted by DSgrouse:
Hopefully this is not family?

Unfortunately, it is.

I'm torn between keeping my distance and hoping there's no backsplash on me and jumping in to try to "fix" it. While I'm sure they'd accept my "help" (read: money) I'm equally sure my advice/guidance would be unwelcome. Prototypical millennial snowflakes.

And quite frankly, I'm not going to provide "help" unless they accept and act on my advice.

Wait and see I guess.

I would do the same. No help if you will not act and provide for yourself. I hear most LEA are hiring, maybe that'll be a good match? Is there any motivation that would lend to having a good LEO career? Maybe the military? Both have good benefits, and are enjoyable careers.

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Originally posted by airsoft guy:
Not being a slave for 18 years

The new reality is 30- They ain't leaving home until they have too. Heck I have a friend who bought another house and moved since his 2 sons weren't ever going to leave.

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Originally posted by braillediver:

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Originally posted by airsoft guy:
Not being a slave for 18 years

The new reality is 30- They ain't leaving home until they have too. Heck I have a friend who bought another house and moved since his 2 sons weren't ever going to leave.

Now people understand why Momma Birds kick the young out of the nest and then leave.

But I've seen it too, mostly with step-kids that my friends have. One had to move his wife and kid out of state and sell the house to get the two step bloodsuckers , I mean step kids from draining his bank account.

At age 20 I had been the army for nearly 3 years.

Also got married at 20. We had a child but we had talked it over and decided that we could handle 1 child, given that we were career soldier family and would be moved every 3 years, if not sooner.

My advice to the thread author, kick them the hell out!

I know a number of families that had "problem children" up to the point that the problems got kicked out and put on their own.

Update:

The 20 year old dumbass in the OP is my Grandson.

Just texted me and said he's been hired as a laborer with a construction outfit. Full time, OT available, benefit package, decent starting wage, upward mobility if he applies himself.

I think he's beginning to catch on...

Good to hear it - give it 2-4 weeks and see how it pans out.

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Originally posted by RHINOWSO:
Good to hear it - give it 2-4 weeks and see how it pans out.

Yeah, my ex-GF was like that. Is like that. Every time she got a job she'd stay for a few days and then quit. Like "Boy, this working shit is HARD!" Welcome to the real world, sweetheart.

Here's hoping your grandson makes it stick this time.

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Originally posted by GWbiker:
When I was 20 years old, we had a form of birth control called:

"Her Father and his brother will beat the shit out of you if you get his daughter pregnant and don't marry her".

I thought it was "they'll beat the living hell out of you until you marry her."

Hopefully this is a wake-up call for your grandson and he will start being responsible.

Great-grandpa Paul sounds pretty cool.

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Of course people are stupid and it feels better without a rubber. You know what else feels better than a rubber? Not being a slave for 18 years to some fuck trophy because your pullout game was weak.

Airsoft that might be the funniest thing I've read in years.

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Originally posted by brecaidra:
Great-grandpa Paul sounds pretty cool.

Been there, done that...



Older daughter and her grandbabies.



Younger daughter's grandsons on their Dad's tractor.

Old pictures too...

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Originally posted by DSgrouse:
Hopefully this is not family?

Of course it's family.

In PHPaul's part of Maine, EVERYBODY is family...

(Couldn't resist the dig. My cousin lives up there.)

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Originally posted by PHPaul:


Been there, done that...

I thought you had a few. I just hadn't thought about the way the title and name sounded before.

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Originally posted by ArtieS:

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Originally posted by DSgrouse:
Hopefully this is not family?

Of course it's family.

In PHPaul's part of Maine, EVERYBODY is family...

(Couldn't resist the dig. My cousin lives up there.)

Have you met my sister, Mom?

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Originally posted by PHPaul:
AND GO LOOK FOR AN ACTUAL FUCKING JOB!

...

You mean one one wherein he gets paid for siring progeny?

Apparently he has the aptitude.

Made me think of this i saw earlier today.

paul, this seems to be the trend now rather than the exception..at least he is only 20, seen this happen to 30 somethings too, living at home.